janelle4christ
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keep doin wht your doing. God will show you the way
I'm 22 male Never dated anyone Am I missing out?
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I couldnt have put it better myself.I wish i had waited for the Lord to guide me to Mr Right but i rushed ahead. Now I have a broken down relationship with an unbeliever and someone who is or was contemplating Islam!
So now it is all about me and God growing closer, I learnt my lesson that its all in Good time.As for missing out on anything.. all i got was heartache and tears..
Wait on the woman of God and ladies for the man of God and I pray there shall be no such pain or heartache.. :star:
Peace
So now it is all about me and God growing closer, I learnt my lesson that its all in Good time.As for missing out on anything.. all i got was heartache and tears..
Wait on the woman of God and ladies for the man of God and I pray there shall be no such pain or heartache.. :star:
Peace
lnrobar said:Dont give up! Keep praying! Please keep praying. I cant stress this enough to people when I talk to them. Keep praying. Dont stop. God is hearing you. Trust me. Wait for God to move for you
God Bless
Sis in Christ
Lnrobar
Hey,
Know that maturity is the ability to delay gratification.Ask for grace to be more patient and make friends with many friends(especially xtian friends who are girls) on a platonic level and very soon you'll be able to make the right choice.Bless you
Know that maturity is the ability to delay gratification.Ask for grace to be more patient and make friends with many friends(especially xtian friends who are girls) on a platonic level and very soon you'll be able to make the right choice.Bless you
In the title of this thread, you ask if you are missing out. I say, if you have a relationship with Jesus, then the answer is NO. He is sufficient, and a better companion than anyone here in the flesh. Keep your relationship with him in the #1 slot of importance in your life, and you will not go wrong. If you are meant to be with someone, then the Lord will introduce you. Count on it.
God bless,
Nigh
God bless,
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Amen brother Nigh. Jesus IS sufficient and our relationship with GOD comes first. If our relationship with Him is in good standing, then the rest falls into place.
Matthew 6:33
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
Matthew 6:33
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
seek him
u know i am in a similar situation, 22 aswell and waiting on God, i plan to wait on God for the write mate. trial ands error is somethimes good but ui don't believe it is in this case. and this is my belief personally. i've told God that the only man i that i want to date is the one that is going to become my husband and i intend to stay that way. the other night i was asking him about my marriage and who my mate will be and he told that all i have to do is seek him first and all these things will come after. waiting does not have to be a drag. love God grow in him, so that when your mate does come you are spiritually grounded and prepared for marriage.
when you seek him he will be found by you. go all out after God.
develop an intimate relationship with himm so that when he speaks without a dubt you'll know its him
also pray for your mate whomever she maybe... don't wait until you know who she is... pray the decisions she makes, her family she relationship with God. it may sound silly but it isn't
hope this helps
u know i am in a similar situation, 22 aswell and waiting on God, i plan to wait on God for the write mate. trial ands error is somethimes good but ui don't believe it is in this case. and this is my belief personally. i've told God that the only man i that i want to date is the one that is going to become my husband and i intend to stay that way. the other night i was asking him about my marriage and who my mate will be and he told that all i have to do is seek him first and all these things will come after. waiting does not have to be a drag. love God grow in him, so that when your mate does come you are spiritually grounded and prepared for marriage.
when you seek him he will be found by you. go all out after God.
develop an intimate relationship with himm so that when he speaks without a dubt you'll know its him
also pray for your mate whomever she maybe... don't wait until you know who she is... pray the decisions she makes, her family she relationship with God. it may sound silly but it isn't
hope this helps
StellaCrosti
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Think about it this way if the first person u ever date is the one you shared your first kiss with, your first date, your first love then that is a real special relationship!
Hey i am also 22 and i have to tell you i wish i had never dated. All it does is add baggage that God never intended us to carry. Stay strong in the Faith and continue to trust in Him and His righteousness. to bring you into the most perfect and well planned relationship you could ever want. For after all if God could speak such a beautiful universe into being He will do the same for your future relationship!
God Bless and stay strong Brother
God Bless and stay strong Brother
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"The kingsdom of heaven is like a net that was let down into the lake and caught all kinds of fish. When it was full, the fishermen pulled it up on the shore. Then they sat down and collected the good fish in baskets and threw the bad ones away." (Mt 13:47-48)
Single folks ought to employ this system when it comes to relationship with the opposite sex. Get to know the people well; their likes and dislikes, their morals, etc. Then put the "good fish" into a "dating" basket and discard the others.
Don't avoid dating, but don't rush into dating, either.
SLE
Single folks ought to employ this system when it comes to relationship with the opposite sex. Get to know the people well; their likes and dislikes, their morals, etc. Then put the "good fish" into a "dating" basket and discard the others.
Don't avoid dating, but don't rush into dating, either.
SLE
Well, Ive never been caught up in this world of dating. Ive never been, and still am not very interested.
22 is not too old... Its actually a fairly mature age to start. And seriously i doubt we are missing out. Honestly.... When your young and immature and dating, it can be a real mess. And "hah" bright side... you’ve never had to deal with a messy break-up. A broken heart! All those dating dilemmas..
Why do you feel like you need someone?? NEED? Strong use of a word...
You could pray, and pray and pity yourself cause you feel...oh, so lonely. But God isnt going to bring the girl of your dreams to your doorstep. Its not going to be THAT easy.
So i'll tell you what you should do?? Just go out there and talk to people. If you find that you share alot in common with a girl, then ask them out. Be prepared for rejection... And dont take it so personally. It can happen.. And usually, its not really about you... Girls can have other reasons for not being wanting a date..
And no. 1 !!! Get to know the girl before you ask her out..
22 is not too old... Its actually a fairly mature age to start. And seriously i doubt we are missing out. Honestly.... When your young and immature and dating, it can be a real mess. And "hah" bright side... you’ve never had to deal with a messy break-up. A broken heart! All those dating dilemmas..
Why do you feel like you need someone?? NEED? Strong use of a word...
You could pray, and pray and pity yourself cause you feel...oh, so lonely. But God isnt going to bring the girl of your dreams to your doorstep. Its not going to be THAT easy.
So i'll tell you what you should do?? Just go out there and talk to people. If you find that you share alot in common with a girl, then ask them out. Be prepared for rejection... And dont take it so personally. It can happen.. And usually, its not really about you... Girls can have other reasons for not being wanting a date..
And no. 1 !!! Get to know the girl before you ask her out..
Great advice! The spirit used you tonight. You said what i need to hear from God. God Bless you and keep in your ways sister!
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"Girl", you have wisdom beyond your years. You posted a great message. May I just add one thought: relationships do not heal self-respect issues. As my 12-step program friends say. "If you don't like yourself when you're alone, you won't like yourself when you're with somebody."
SLE
SLE
Well, I'm 19, not quite 22, but close enough to know what you are talking about. I tell myself all the time not to focus on the fact that I am alone, but to focus on the fact that God has one person out there for me, and right now, it's me and God time. To get and keep things straight. How can God trust us with a big thing like "a b/f or g/f (and I say those words roughly) or husband" unless He can trust us with the small things "our relationship with Him".
You know it does make sense to me that maybe God is preparing us for out future mate by how we treat our relationship with Him. He knows who we are supposed to marry, and He wants us to be ready, so if we can't keep a steady relationship with Him and be faithful and devoted to Jesus in every way (praying, reading, worshiping, etc.) then He knows we arent' ready for another relationship to try to handle.
He just wants us to be ready for each other for our own good, and it's a good thing to not have anyone tie you down at such a young age, because this is when God wants us the most. When we are feeling lonely, and have no one we can love on.
God is awesome, and it shouldn't matter how long it takes, just know that there is someone out there for you, and never settle for less then what God has for you. That means, don't go out there and find just some random person because that's what you can get RIGHT NOW, wait. God has someone very very important for you, and it's better to wait for it, then to never know it at all because you were impatient.
I wish you all the blessings in the world, and just remember not to settle for less than what God has for you. God revealed that to me here recently, and it has helped me sooo much, and I hope it helps you to.
Sis in Christ
Lnrobar
You know it does make sense to me that maybe God is preparing us for out future mate by how we treat our relationship with Him. He knows who we are supposed to marry, and He wants us to be ready, so if we can't keep a steady relationship with Him and be faithful and devoted to Jesus in every way (praying, reading, worshiping, etc.) then He knows we arent' ready for another relationship to try to handle.
He just wants us to be ready for each other for our own good, and it's a good thing to not have anyone tie you down at such a young age, because this is when God wants us the most. When we are feeling lonely, and have no one we can love on.
God is awesome, and it shouldn't matter how long it takes, just know that there is someone out there for you, and never settle for less then what God has for you. That means, don't go out there and find just some random person because that's what you can get RIGHT NOW, wait. God has someone very very important for you, and it's better to wait for it, then to never know it at all because you were impatient.
I wish you all the blessings in the world, and just remember not to settle for less than what God has for you. God revealed that to me here recently, and it has helped me sooo much, and I hope it helps you to.
Sis in Christ
LnrobarI'm on the same level dude i had a real girl friend and at the moment still dont have,but that dont get me down cause i know when its the right time he will give me a princess
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my brother wait on the lord and he will never let u down:shade:
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my brother wait on the lord and he will never let u down:shade:
In a nutshell....Yes.....you are missing out. Read Proiverbs 31 v 10 - end.
The bible also says "he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing" Sorry I cannot give you the scripture ref. at the moment, but it is there.
Also, always treat your lady like a lady. With due respect at all times......what-ever.
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Conqueror1,
I hurt for you. But to encourage you, the Lord does have someone specific picked out for you. Trust Him, totally and completely and you will be surprised by what He will bring you. I have a friend who just got married in February. She was 34 and a virgin, (yes, a virgin, they are out there). She waited a long time, but it was worth it for her. I saw her go through some waiting pains, but it was the most beautiful wedding ever. I had the sweet privilege of being her matron of honor. Whatever you do, DON'T GIVE UP.
Psalms 37:4-5 Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
I hurt for you. But to encourage you, the Lord does have someone specific picked out for you. Trust Him, totally and completely and you will be surprised by what He will bring you. I have a friend who just got married in February. She was 34 and a virgin, (yes, a virgin, they are out there). She waited a long time, but it was worth it for her. I saw her go through some waiting pains, but it was the most beautiful wedding ever. I had the sweet privilege of being her matron of honor. Whatever you do, DON'T GIVE UP.
Psalms 37:4-5 Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
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Re: ....am I missing out?
Why is it that the single life has gone out of style, that the single & celibate person is seen as a dinosaur? The single & celibate life is THE life that God has appointed for some people, a life that He blesses. Why don't single & celibate people see their lives the way God sees them;as lives that can be focused on honoring and serving Him and thus be honored by Him?
While I don't wish to insult anyone, I mut say that this thread is evidence that the desires of the flesh have invaded the church and edged relationship with God out of first place in many peoples' lives.
"Seek FIRST the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things (things you truly need) will be given to you as well." (Mt 6:33)
SLE
Why is it that the single life has gone out of style, that the single & celibate person is seen as a dinosaur? The single & celibate life is THE life that God has appointed for some people, a life that He blesses. Why don't single & celibate people see their lives the way God sees them;as lives that can be focused on honoring and serving Him and thus be honored by Him?
While I don't wish to insult anyone, I mut say that this thread is evidence that the desires of the flesh have invaded the church and edged relationship with God out of first place in many peoples' lives.
"Seek FIRST the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things (things you truly need) will be given to you as well." (Mt 6:33)
SLE
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Just get your career and life on track, be who you want to be !
I am in the same situation and theres nothing wrong with it get ambitious !
Put god first
U have to put your priorities in order u first have to make up your mind on what u want in life and work towards it.If while working on trying to achieve what
u want in life u can go dating then good will grant u ur wish.
Put god in every situation and he will fullfill ur disires
U have to put your priorities in order u first have to make up your mind on what u want in life and work towards it.If while working on trying to achieve what
u want in life u can go dating then good will grant u ur wish.
Put god in every situation and he will fullfill ur disires
Umm, yes this is an amen, and it is something that I deal with but I know God wants me single. It is a sad thing that almost all of the youth in America who are proclaimed christians think they have to be with someone. I know God doesn't want me to be celibate, but I know he wants me single for now, and I'm okay with that.
But it isn't just the church's fault. Some are pressured into thinking they need someone when in reality they don't. My mother isn't saved and doesn't understand anything I talk to her about and why I'm still single andwhy I'm not married with a grandchild for her. I mean all the time she's harpin on me to get married, but I just can't explain to her why I won't. So, yeah, but I totally agree with you!
Sis in Christ
Lnrobar
