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Is it ok to french kiss someone’s spouse

Is it ok to french kiss someone’s spouse

  • No, we need to respect each other's body for marriage.

    Votes: 88 91.7%
  • Yes kissing is ok. It's not like we're having sex

    Votes: 7 7.3%
  • Purity is old school, put me in a kissing booth any day.

    Votes: 1 1.0%

  • Total voters
    96

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Is it ok to french kiss someone else's spouse ?:secret:


Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers. Hebrews 13:4

I think everyone is saying ‘’ of course its wrong ‘’.
But lets see if we’ll remain in agreement after I share this.
For those not called to be celibate there is a soul mate sent from God for marriage. ( are we still in agreement )
If everyone said yes then its fair to say that our husbands and wives are hand picked by God.

When I go back to the original question. Is it ok to French kiss someone’s spouse ?

Would your answer remain ‘’ yes’’, if a christian boy kiss a christian girl he’s dating that is not his wife ?:shock:
1 Peter 1:15-16 nkjv
15 but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, 16 because it is written, “Be holy, for I am holy
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Before I anwer the poll...are you talking about...FRench kissing you own spouse? Or someone else's?

I did not kiss my husband on the lips until our wedding day.

~Jen
 
^Then I'd have to call that adultery. French kissing someone without being married to them is a sin and so is french kissing someone who's married.
 
^Then I'd have to call that adultery. French kissing someone without being married to them is a sin and so is french kissing someone who's married.

You're going to upset others.

kissing someone without being married to them is a sin

You sure there's no room for compromise ?
 
We shouldn't even merely desire another woman's husband, then how about kissing them?

It shows that this marriage wasn't even built on love, I know for sure that if a woman kisses my *hypothetical* husband, I may find it a little hard to forgive her, and I'd be hurt so it's definitely not okay.
 
umm... i understand ur question sister. Well, i think ill go with giggles4God, its better not to kiss, especially french kiss if you're not yet married to that person. . . that way we doesnt cross the you-kissed-my-wife-first scene. Besides a girl shouldnt let hersefl to be kissed, especially french kiss... if shes not married to that guy, even if hes a Christian.
 
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its a sin to kiss some one

"You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men. Matthew 5:13

same like we are salt and our taste is just for our husband and wife.its our gift for his/her that we have to save.if we touch some one even kiss and so on we will lose our taste.and we should thrown out from the kingdom of God.because we are all his wifes.our groom is jesus christ so we must save our taste for him.then we will be happy and loveable to our spirtul groom jesus christ. may God bless us to save our saltness
 
"You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men. Matthew 5:13

same like we are salt and our taste is just for our husband and wife.its our gift for his/her that we have to save.if we touch some one even kiss and so on we will lose our taste.and we should thrown out from the kingdom of God.because we are all his wifes.our groom is jesus christ so we must save our taste for him.then we will be happy and loveable to our spirtul groom jesus christ. may God bless us to save our saltness

Falls off chair...:shock:
Can you repeat that.
 
But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. 7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peacea. 16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or howb knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches. 18 Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised. 19 Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God. 20 Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called. 21 Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather. 22 For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord’s freemanc: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ’s servant. 23 Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men. 24 Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God.

25 Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. 26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distressd, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. 27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. 29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; 30 And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not; 31 And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away. 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.

36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry. 37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. 38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.

39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.

1 Corinthians 7 :4-39
 
Why would a Christian kiss another's persons' spouse? There is no valid reason to do this at all and it is obviously wrong.

As for kissing your own boyfriend or girlfriend, why not? That is, assuming you keep control. The rest is obvious and Scripture speaks for itself. However, nowhere in Scripture does it tell somone to refrain from "kissing" their own friends (to be wife or husband). Kissing is a beautiful thing.

As for the person who quoted about losing salt, sorry but you are far off on that and misinterpreting Scripture. You're telling me I'm sinning if I kiss a girl? I think not, neither does Scripture agree. Adultery has nothing to do with kissing someone.

However, kissing someone else spouse is ridiculous and asking for trouble :)

Sungill, please pray for wisdom and understanding. You're going to do more damage to someone (especially unbelievers you preach to) when you give them the wrong image of GOD and the Bible.

You quoted:

Matthew 5:13
Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men

KJV Commentary

The Beatitudes are followed by a summary statement of the basic character of the Christian's life as salt and light. Ye are the salt of the earth; again the phrase ye are indicates that only the genuinely born-again person is salt and can help meet the needs of the world. The salt adds flavoring, acts as a preservative, melts coldness and heals wounds. Thus it is a very appropriate description of the believer in his relationship to the world in which he lives. The term “lose its savor” refers to its essential saltiness. Jesus was actually saying that if the salt loses its saltiness, it is worthless. The implication of this statement is that if a Christian loses his effectiveness, his testimony will be trampled under the feet of men.
 
UHHHHHHH?????????????????????

Excuse me i just fell off the chair :shock:,
NO NO NO and NO it is about as far away from ok as you can get,

God Bless xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
 
In His Word!
Bible GateWay
Romans 13:14
Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.
 
That's really a surprising question. Maybe if someone's never "intimately" kissed someone, they could conceivably not know what that involves. Or perhaps if someone has "intimately" kissed too many people, they might have become blinded to it. But unless you're repulsed by someone, kissing the opposite sex on the lips, even short of "French" kissing, stirs up sexual desires. So is it okay to kiss another's spouse this way?

The Bible tells us to "flee temptation," not see how close we can get to it and question how much we can "get away" with. Seeing how close we can get to sinning without sinning is sin itself, loving worldliness instead of holiness and purity, for we are to "be holy as He is holy," not "French kiss your neighbor's wife as long as you don't have sex."

I generally don't like to say an answer is obvious because that can come across as arrogant. But I believe this is obvious, and only a very damaged conscience could conceivably think it might be okay to intimately kiss another person's spouse. If anyone has such a damaged conscience, I urge you to pray that God would shake up your life and return feeling to your numbed sense of right and wrong. Jesus healed the lepers, and he will heal those who continue to cry out to him for help.
 
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When you make out with someone who is not your wife or husband you are robing from them and from their future mate. Only to statisfy our own fleshly desires.

God wants us to be holy as he is Holy.

Today Christians think purity is a scale from one to 10, 10 being sex. We then draw a line to our own satisfaction making sure we don't reach 10. How far is to far. Number 4 doesn't sound bad because its not sex so it has to be acceptable. It feels good so it can't be wrong. Number 1 is holding hands and that’s boring so lets draw the line at 5. ( whatever 5 may be in your definition as purity ).

I'm safe once I don't cross that line..( unless you get bored with 5 and put the line at number 9 ) It's not 10, meaning sex so I'm still pure.

Or Am I ?

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What is Purity..lets look at the dictionary.

The condition of being pure. Specifically:
(a) freedom from foreign admixture or deleterious matter; as, the purity of water, of wine, of drugs, of metals.
(b) Cleanness; freedom from foulness or dirt. ``The purity of a linen vesture.'' --Holyday.
(c) Freedom from guilt or the defilement of sin; innocence; chastity; as, purity of heart or of life.
(d) Freedom from any sinister or improper motives or views.
(e) Freedom from foreign idioms, or from barbarous or improper words or phrases; as, purity of style.

Source: Webster's Revised Unabridged Dictionary (1913


The condition of being pure. First we need to establish what pure means in the bible. Here are some verses that states pure.
Matthew 5:8
8"Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God

2 Samuel 22:27
With the pure thou wilt show thyself pure; And with the perverse thou wilt show thyself froward.

There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness….Proverbs 30:12

The words of the LORD are pure words: as silver tried in a furnace of earth, purified seven times…Psalm 12:6

If thou be pure and upright, surely now he will awake for thee, and make the habitation of thy righteousness prosperous…Job 8:6

When you look at different translations pure means clean.
Job 33:9


'I am pure, without transgression; I am innocent and there is no guilt in me. NASB

I am clean without transgression, I am innocent; neither is there iniquity in me. KJV



My thoughts on Kissing is not to condemn anyone, everyone knows their limitations. Most of the time it takes a fall ( committed sin ) to know your limit. You have to play with fire to know the best way to not get burn. But why open yourself up to temptation when you can flee like Joseph.

Joseph could have stayed in the room to negotiate or discourage the Potiphar’s wife. But he ran. He didn’t draw a line or pondered on how to keep her clothes on. He didn’t care to find out his limitations. He did not care to test himself to see if he could handle it. He fled leaving his coat.

I won’t sin against God with you…said Joseph to Potiphar’s wife…He said this at the beginning when she first appraoched him ( it wasn't a one time thing read..Genesis 39:1-23 ). In his heart he made the decision to stand for God no matter what. So when the bad situation arrived he ran he didn’t test his limitation.

I’m a youth leader and that’s the message I’m giving my flocks. Political leaders like Palin preach abstinence yet faces what many church familes face today, a pregnant teenager. We justify it because they kept the baby and didn’t abort it.

Why do we have teenage pregnancies if we are preaching abstinence ?
Blaming the sinful nature is irrelevant if we are filled with the Holy Ghost.

This is what God showed me on reasons the church struggle with abstinence.

1. Allowing our kids to date when they are not mature enough.
The maturity I speak about is not age. But maturity in Christ.
We are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ…to a mature man, to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ. Eph 4:15,13

2. We invited the spirit of compromise into our churches.
Opening the door to dating, we had to
... Calculate the appropriate age to date, some start at 13
... Now because of that open door, we have to draw a line on whats acceptable behavior in a relationship.
... The open door permits kids to enjoy intimacy
last but not less, that open door made alot of us redefine the word purity.

It’s foolish to say kissing will send you to hell, because it won’t. But it is wise to say kissing can set the foundation to more actions. Kissing is part of four play.

The real ornament of woman is her character, her purity.
Mohandas Gandhi


But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart...Matthew 5 :28


If I’m judged as an adulterer by looking ….what would kissing make me.
My my personal conviction. I'm not saying everyone should adapt to what I'm saying. I have the responsibility to prepare those kids when they are faced with a Potiphar’s wife. Yes we might be spiritually mature to remain in that situation without having sex, but some of us are not mature..so I'm teaching them to run.




God bless.
 

But why open yourself up to temptation when you can flee like Joseph.
Joseph could have stayed in the room to negotiate or discourage the Potiphar’s wife. But he ran. He didn’t draw a line or pondered on how to keep her clothes on. He didn’t care to find out his limitations. He did not care to test himself to see if he could handle it. He fled leaving his coat.

I won’t sin against God with you…said Joseph to Potiphar’s wife…He said this at the beginning when she first appraoched him ( it wasn't a one time thing read..Genesis 39:1-23 ). In his heart he made the decision to stand for God no matter what. So when the bad situation arrived he ran he didn’t test his limitation.


The real ornament of woman is her character, her purity.
Mohandas Gandhi


But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart...Matthew 5 :28


If I’m judged as an adulterer by looking ….what would kissing make me.
My my personal conviction. I'm not saying everyone should adapt to what I'm saying. I have the responsibility to prepare those kids when they are faced with a Potiphar’s wife. Yes we might be spiritually mature to remain in that situation without having sex, but some of us are not mature..so I'm teaching them to run.




God bless.

Amen! THANK YOU so much for this sister... it is so true,
most of us thinks that the temptations today are different of the old times, but 'no' there are lots of temptation stories from the Bible,
some of them was able to get away from it, like Joseph and some didnt which suffered great consequences!
David for example tolerated himself on looking at Bathsheba.

Here are the four steps you can follow to make the same mistake as David did in falling into temptation.

2 Samuel 11

1 Then it happened in the spring, at the time when kings go out to battle, that David sent Joab and his servants with him and all Israel, and they destroyed the sons of Ammon and besieged Rabbah. But David stayed at Jerusalem.

Instead of being busy for the Lord why not just stay home and relax, besides you have done so many things for the Lord.

2 Now when evening came David arose from his bed and walked around on the roof of the king's house, and from the roof he saw a woman bathing; and the woman was very beautiful in appearance.

Now, when you find yourself bored because you have nothing to do at home, why not watch the tv, get the latest movie or better yet chat at ungodly sites or do anything that will lead you to temptation

3 So David sent and inquired about the woman. And one said, "Is this not Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?"

Next get to know more of the temptation, you can even invite someone to help you

4 David sent messengers and took her, and when she came to him, he lay with her; and when she had purified herself from her uncleanness, she returned to her house.

And lastly fall into the temptation and sin. Do everything to get your hands into it, because now you're already trapped with the temptation and instead of controlling yourself, it controls you!
Pretty easy huh? and exciting too..

But why not follow one single step that rizen was sharing to us.

like Joseph...
RUN (away from temptations!)
 
how about the holy kiss paul is saying?

Is it ok to french kiss someone else's spouse ?:secret:

awww rizen... what a topic u had r-i-z-e-n (lol)

i keep laughing here reading the replies...

i strongly agree with your last post so with truehearts on the person of Joseph and David but i'll try to review later if there has been a kissing scene happened there before...... the temptation occurred... lololol

to those who are conservative type ... oh no.. NO.. NO. NO.. never that should happened....

i'm only wondering what the Bible is saying about the Holy Kiss? hehe

Salute one another with an holy kiss. The churches of Christ salute you. Romans 16:16

All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss.1 Corinthians 16:20

Greet one another with an holy kiss 2 Corinthians 13:12

Greet all the brethren with an holy kiss. 1 Thessalonians 5:26



We have a sister here, married, 56 years old kissing (cheek -to - cheek or lips - to - cheek) almost all the brethren even males ( i saw her some few times) as they arrive in the church before worship service. Is this a french kiss though? hehe


God bless you more sister Rizen with wisdom and knowledge coming from the Lord... Praise the Lord for that strong conviction and boldness to lead the Youth in life of purity.. The Lord bless your ministry.


Sister Reymielin
 
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No. A French kiss is different...I don't know if I'm allowed to describe it though lol.
 
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