Is it ok to french kiss someone’s spouse

[benfaust]

I'll describe it (non-graphically).

A "French" kiss is a passionate, intimate kiss that is always associated with romance and sensual/sexual attraction. It is definitely sensual, definitely romantic, and definitely 100% off limits with someone else's spouse (or someone besides yours if you're married).

 

[TheWidowsOffering]

I'll describe it (non-graphically).

A "French" kiss is a passionate, intimate kiss that is always associated with romance and sensual/sexual attraction. It is definitely sensual, definitely romantic, and definitely 100% off limits with someone else's spouse (or someone besides yours if you're married).

noooooooooooo.........i wouldn't allow somebody kissing my spouse..... nngggrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.,.,:secret:hehe

 

[windmill2kids]

And what if...

What if you do give into weakness and go all the way before you were married? What then. I think at one point in everyone's life we have messed up some how or another.

 

[rizen1]

When you fall down what do you do ?

Do you get up and start over or do you remain on the floor.

Having once sin should be the motivation to live right and remain pure.

 

[ephesians4_23]

I am divorced, and my marriage was not started on the right foundation -- Jesus. I did not wait for our wedding night or anything.

On the other hand, there's a son of my friend, who did not even kiss his bride until their wedding day. They had known each other as friends for years, they'd had other relationships, but he knew that he was saving himself for a lifetime mate. They barely touched each other, because they did not want anything to happen before their wedding.
Now they are working at the International House of Prayer in Kansas City, and are planning different missions around the world.
I always wonder what might have happened for me if I had their faith at their age.
What if my husband had saved himself too? Then he might not have been so apt to cheat maybe. The bond we had would have been stronger. I can't change it, I can be grateful for my kids, but I can also pray that my boys save themselves for their wives, and their wives for them. And that is what I do.
God bless

 

[bruren777]

French Kissing!

IT IS NOT OK TO FRENCH KISS!

A member of opposite sex, unless it is your spouse.

IT IS NOT TO KISS ON THE LIPS!

A member of the opposite sex, unless it is your spouse.

It is ok to give a peck on the cheek a member of the opposite sex, who is not your spouse, unless your spouse objects!

 

[WithUsAlways]

I would say a kiss is ok, you kiss your parents ect to show affection.
But french kissing ....best left for the wedding day!

 

[Turbopun]

French kiss = Not under control. I just have a hard time seeing self-control being exhibited in the midst of a French kiss. Oh boy.


As for me? (not that you asked) I ain't kissin' no one until I am at the altar. I have given away my heart too many times. So, biblically is it ok to kiss an unmarried woman if you are a man? I see nothing in scripture that specifically points out it being sinful. I do however support Song of Solomon 2:7 which says "I adjure you, daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, or by the hinds of the field, that you not stir up, nor awaken love, until it so desires."

I think this is where the Spirit of God comes in in a mighty way. If I got to a point where I was getting to explore a woman's character and was becoming attracted to her and wanted to kiss her and she had reciprocated feelings, I would go to God and see what He says. I think it is that big of a deal because kissing can lead to some level of intimacy which may or may not be a good thing.

To be honest, I have no idea how my next interaction will be with a woman I have romantic feelings for and she the same for me. All I know is that right now I have such a strong conviction from the Spirit to refrain from physical intimacy and giving my heart away that I have no option but to obey Him and trust that He will guide my courtship in a romantic and pure way.

And! A big perk. I get to tell my wife that I refrained from kissing another woman or telling another woman "I love you" from this point on.

As for the others reading this that have the freedom to kiss while under self control, cool!


Thoughts?

 

[Property Of God]

I wouldn't feel right If each guy I date, I go french kissing him, it'll lose its meaning, especially now that relationships end too fast.

Plus french kissing isn't an expression of love perse, you can express love by a million other way.

Leave french kissing to married couples, and act like a person in love, not in lust.

 

[Rene]

French kissing is foreplay. Foreplay prepares your whole body for having sex. Best keep it for marriage!

 

[LostLamb]

Marriage is to be kept holy.....a man is to love his wife as Christ did the Church and a wife is to do not do anything that would blemish her. The act of Adultery does not take more than a lustful look or thought. So the idea of a person kissing another person's spouse just does not sit well for me.....

 

[Brother Mike]

umph

Strange topic.

I have to give this a big NO...............Not OK.

 

[RJ]

I didn't vote; this is about the silliest post I have seen yet?
What a husband and wife do behind closed doors is their business!

WWJHYD!

 

[benfaust]

Yes, what a husband and wife do behind closed doors is their business, as long as they do it alone and it involves only the two of them. The question was whether it's okay to "french kiss" someone else's spouse, not your own.

 

[Kit Carson]

Um....er.......NNNOOOOO it is not OK.

Kit

 

[AbbysAunt]

Um was this question meant to get some sort of debate or disagreement going because frankly I think we all know the answer to this one.

Marriage is a convenant between a man, woman and God..meaning that it is to remain without blemish and kept holy...to french kiss someone's spouse is not being friendly nor is it acceptable in anyway. I know if I were married I wouldn't want somebody french kissing my husband. The only one french kissing him better be me and thats it. To Kiss someone's spouse in such a way is cheating in my book.

 

[benfaust]

I suspect the reason this thread was started was to get single people to think about their kissing another single person in light of the fact that both of them might end up marrying someone else in the future, and they are therefore kissing someone else's future spouse.

 

[RJ]

Marriage is to be kept holy.....a man is to love his wife as Christ did the Church and a wife is to do not do anything that would blemish her. The act of Adultery does not take more than a lustful look or thought. So the idea of a person kissing another person's spouse just does not sit well for me.....

The Bible says that if you even look at another with lust in your heart, you have already have commited adultry....I say no!

 

[mc_simmons]

french kiss??? no way... his lips are mine alone

 

[MsMree]

Purity is one thing (and biblical too; hooray). But soul mate in the sense of "the one correct person for you to marry" isn't biblical.

One you are married that person is your soul mate. But before you got married they were not your future husband/wife set aside and only you can marry them to be in God's will.

If you honestly disagree with me (aside from showing me where in the bible supports your view please ) can you tell me what then happens when one person marries not their "correct soul mate". Then 4 people (the two who married each other incorrectly, plus the two they were each "supposed" to marry) are out of God's will? And then what if the two that the married two were supposed to marry then each married another "incorrect soul mate"? Then you have 8 people out of God's will for their spouse and only 3 marriages!

Hopefully people can see why this is not how God's word indicates he operates

God intends for us to commit and covenant with our spouse for earthly life, but I can't find biblical support for people viewing singles as "another person's spouse".

It makes me think of:

New International Version (NIV)

Matthew 11:28-30

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Luke 11:46
Jesus replied, “And you experts in the law, woe to you, because you load people down with burdens they can hardly carry, and you yourselves will not lift one finger to help them.

Acts 15:28-29

28 It seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us not to burden you with anything beyond the following requirements: 29 You are to abstain from food sacrificed to idols, from blood, from the meat of strangled animals and from sexual immorality. You will do well to avoid these things.

Farewell.

(It's useful to keep in mind that in other places in the New Testament it says eating meat that has been sacrificed to idols is not actually bad at all, except that it might cause others seeing a Christian doing so to stumble...)

All the best in your consideration of this topic.