Someone confesses an abortion to you

[dchena]

Say you are talking to a woman and she tells you that she has had an abortion. This can be any scenario. She could be young. She could be old. She could be grieving. She could be matter-of-fact.

What would you do? Quote scripture to justify YOUR actions towards the woman. Not scripture to support your view on abortion.

 

[Boanerges]

1.Be led of the Spirit.
2.Speak the truth in love.
3.Speak the truth in love.
4.Speak the truth in love.

The rest would depend on the circumstance.

 

[Gracealone]

There is no sin to great to forgive, except continued unbelief.

We need to love, and forgive, as Jesus has loved and forgiven us.
That is the whole heart of the matter.

 

[peeps]

1.Be led of the Spirit.
2.Speak the truth in love.
3.Speak the truth in love.
4.Speak the truth in love.

The rest would depend on the circumstance.

4x Amen!

and yes . . .the rest would depend on the circumstances. . .

However . . . I*ve never been in that situation eye to eye . .

I wish I would know I would react THIS way. . .

How come your asking @dchena . . .Are you in that situation ?

 

[stephen]

This happened to me a few years back. The lady was most distressed.


For any lady to undergo an abortion tells of great inner pain and sorrow.

No man/woman can pass judgement on the decision that is made in this regard. Indeed not.....

 

[Nigel]

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4x Amen!

and yes . . .the rest would depend on the circumstances. . .

However . . . I*ve never been in that situation eye to eye . .

I wish I would know I would react THIS way. . .

How come your asking @dchena . . .Are you in that situation ?

I've been in this situation and worse several times. We should remember the grace that has been shown to us.

 

[spirit1st]

Rom 9:11 (For the children being not yet born, neither having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works, but of him that calleth

My ex wife aborted two of our sons! once before i married her once after!
It was very great pain!

Still after divorcing her , I see those kids were better off! Hate to say it! But she was such a evil girl and hated all her children!

Better be Very sure before you marry a evil person, that are GODS CHILDREN!

of course I was not Born -Again when I married her! Nor was she of course!

 

[dchena]

No, I'm not in that situation, on either side of the scene, nor have i ever been, either considering abortion or faced with someone who is.

I asked that question because I was frustertated with reading peoples' endless compassionless commentaries on the rights and wrongs of such situations. They seemed to be harshly judgmental (which is not the same thing as having discerning judgment), and I was hoping the question would steer people to consider more compassionate responses, since we are all Christians, and we are called to forgive, show mercy and grace, to support one another, and to love.

Yes, we are called to choose wisely and responsibly, and not involve ourselves in fornication or of the terminating of life, but when we consider how we would be towards another person, it is not so easy as just understanding the black and white right and wrongs. Ultimately it comes down to our own behavior towards others, and thinking is a behavior, so I was hoping that some people would start considering how they thought about the matter, and try to include their heart and their Christian values when thinking about such a topic as this where it is very easy to be black and white, and unforgiving.

dchena

 

[Nigel]

Rom 9:11 (For the children being not yet born, neither having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works, but of him that calleth

My ex wife aborted two of our sons! once before i married her once after!
It was very great pain!

Still after divorcing her , I see those kids were better off! Hate to say it! But she was such a evil girl and hated all her children!

Better be Very sure before you marry a evil person, that are GODS CHILDREN!

of course I was not Born -Again when I married her! Nor was she of course!

I've been in that situation too. Married to an evil woman. I still love her too.There is nothing I can do forher though. She loves to speak blasphemy. I married her when I was a BuddhistThere is a lot more I could say.But still the Lord wanted me to forgive her and in that I found a lot of peace.

 

[Nigel]

No, I'm not in that situation, on either side of the scene, nor have i ever been, either considering abortion or faced with someone who is.

I asked that question because I was frustertated with reading peoples' endless compassionless commentaries on the rights and wrongs of such situations. They seemed to be harshly judgmental (which is not the same thing as having discerning judgment), and I was hoping the question would steer people to consider more compassionate responses, since we are all Christians, and we are called to forgive, show mercy and grace, to support one another, and to love.

Yes, we are called to choose wisely and responsibly, and not involve ourselves in fornication or of the terminating of life, but when we consider how we would be towards another person, it is not so easy as just understanding the black and white right and wrongs. Ultimately it comes down to our own behavior towards others, and thinking is a behavior, so I was hoping that some people would start considering how they thought about the matter, and try to include their heart and their Christian values when thinking about such a topic as this where it is very easy to be black and white, and unforgiving.

dchena

The letter of the Law Kills, The spirit gives life. I have counciled several women in this situation.Rather than judge I thought it better to remember the grace that was shown to me. I used to be a tibetian buddist for 14 yrs. And I concider that to be a lot worse.Yet the Lord loved me and healed me.

 

[PaladinGirl]

I chose the last option because I believe that is how Jesus would respond.

 

[mrsmonica]

I believe abortion is wrong. But it's not for anyone else to judge. If a woman or a couple choose to abort the baby that is between them and God. It shouldn't really matter what anyone else says because he is the only one who can forgive. I though chose the last option, i believe it is a matter that should be handled with compassion.

 

[Chad]

Quote scripture to justify YOUR actions towards the woman. Not scripture to support your view on abortion.

Scripture is solely 100% GOD's "view" first and of course, as believers we also must believe in His Word.

God would forgive that woman who had the abortion. Its clear in the Bible that the only unforgivable sin is blasphemy against the Holy Spirit.

Matthew 12:31
Therefore I tell you, every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven people, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven.

And as others said, be led by the Spirit and witness to the woman

 

[SpiritLedEd]

What would you do? Quote scripture to justify YOUR actions towards the woman. Not scripture to support your view on abortion.

I know an older woman whose self-righteous nose would be truly out of joint if she encountered such a woman. How sad! I, too, chose the last option because a compassionate approach is the only Christlike approach.

Since such a woman most probably would be shunned like a leper, I chose Jesus' response to the leper in Mark 1:41, "Filled with compassion, Jesus reached out and touched the man. 'I am willing,' He said, "Be clean!'"

SLE

 

[spirit1st]

I chose the last one!
But tell her she Needs SALVATION! GOD has HOPE for her and eternal life!

We cannot kill others and Even reject HIS gift of LOVE!

2Th 2:10 And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved. 1Co 15:3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;



1Co 15:4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures: Rom 10:9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.


Rom 10:10 For with the heart man believeth unto
righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.


Heb 4:2 For unto us was the gospel preached, as well as unto them: but the word preached did not profit them, not being mixed with faith in them that heard it.

1Jn 2:25 And this is the promise that he hath promised us, even eternal life.
1Jn 3:5 And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin.

1Jn 3:8 He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.



Luk 13:1 There were present at that season some that told him of the Galilaeans, whose blood Pilate had mingled with their sacrifices.
Luk 13:2 And Jesus answering said unto them, Suppose ye that these Galilaeans were sinners above all the Galilaeans, because they suffered such things?
Luk 13:3 I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.
Luk 13:4 Or those eighteen, upon whom the tower in Siloam fell, and slew them, think ye that they were sinners above all men that dwelt in Jerusalem?
Luk 13:5 I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.

 

[lettheredeemed]

First of all I would ask her how she felt about having the abortion because many women especially young girls are not aware of exactly what is happening. All they know is that they are pregnant and they panic and make poor choices because they are afraid.

If she didn't know Christ I would most certainly tell her that Christ loves her and that He came to die so that she could know Him. If she was a Christian I would encourage her to confess it to Jesus and recommit her life to Christ. The goal for any Christian that has fallen is restoration and renewed fellowship with Christ. It is imperitive that we mirror Christ in all we do. He looked on them with compassion. I don't seen Christ brow beating anyone over their head over their sin. I do see Him loving them even to the point of death so they might have the ability to boldly come to Him.

 

[Richie]

I chose the fourth choice because I as a young man would rather choose to be very careful in the way I approach women, in the way I deal with women.

I would rather not develop a relationship with her because it could probably lead me to a dangerous trap.

But I would declare of the Lord's mercy towards her and encourage her to turn towards the Lord. For I can do nothing of myself. The most I can do is to pray for her.

 

[JCslover]

I think in love tell the girl how both precious she is to God and how preciuos them babies are tofer her friendship and see if I could talk to her about it.In a lving way try to put across the great sin that she is about to commit,but my friendship and love and most of all Gods love is still there for her unconditionally.However we also need to stress that abortion is taking life aand it is wrong to do so.In Gods eyes its murder.Also if she is having the abortin because she has no support I would offer her my help.

 

[sunshineaaks]

Say you are talking to a woman and she tells you that she has had an abortion. This can be any scenario. She could be young. She could be old. She could be grieving. She could be matter-of-fact.

What would you do? Quote scripture to justify YOUR actions towards the woman. Not scripture to support your view on abortion.

There have been many scenarios which I can relate and chose the last one for this poll. There have been some young, some old, some grieving, some matter-of-fact as well as some bitter and hateful, some in deep despair, some believers and others unbelievers.

I did use scripture to justify my actions to them. The verses of compassion, longsuffering, kindness when they believed they were the lowest living creatures on this earth and could not understand how I could talk with them. I also gave scripture on abortion and how God sees sin, along with verses of His forgiveness, power, mercy and grace.

The woman who has an abortion (and the man who pushes it) are no different than the tax cheater, murderer, or liar. They can all come to God in repentance and gain forgiveness through Christ.

I also believe God allows certain things in our lives to build faith and trust in Him alone, to help us grow closer to Him and depend totally on Him. Circumstances, that had we not been faced with or walked through to healing, we could not possibly know what someone else might feel. Circumstances which were allowed so that we might help someone else by not only giving God the glory and praise but thankfulness for the dark valleys He brought us through.

 

[The Robster]

Say you are talking to a woman and she tells you that she has had an abortion. This can be any scenario. She could be young. She could be old. She could be grieving. She could be matter-of-fact.

What would you do? Quote scripture to justify YOUR actions towards the woman. Not scripture to support your view on abortion.

I'd leave it alone unless God put it on my heart to even say anything. Even then I'd have to check to see if God really wanted me to even comment on the matter. I think one of the things we have to be careful with as Christians is to assume that we're the one God wants to use to address something, just because we come across someone like that in our path. God may have someone else in mind to say something about the matter and He may not.