I am a 22year old lady and i am single. I had a man i loved so deeply for 3-full-years and i recently discovered that he was never faithful to me from the word "go". I was so pained and am still nursing that pain in my heart. I watch a lot of non-believers getting married to good men and they never seem to have trouble finding their rightful men. I am a Christian and day-in-day-out, i pray for my future husband but i see nothing. I have done everything i know of. I have prayed, fasted, declared the Word over my situation, read the Bible etc... I dont know what more God wants me to do to get my prayers answered. At times i ask myself if God really hears me coz at times the silence really makes me feel so low and unloved by Him. I know my husband is out there and please help me pray that God brings him to my direction. I was hurt once but thank God i never lost hope. Am tired of attending other people's weddings, its time they attend mine.....I also want to have a beautiful family and live happily. Please Lord come to my rescue.
Why Do Bad Things Happen To Good People?
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There is one thing you lack, and it is critically important. You lack patience. What you are going through is not a "bad" thing, its just an uncomfortable part of growing up. If it is God's will for you to marry, God will put you and your spouse together at the right time, not your time. The patience lesson you are going to learn from this experience will be very valuable to you in the future as you mature.
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There are no good people Mendy, none of us are that. Romans 3:10
Disappointment is a part of life and we all have to adjust to it and make our lives something special for God whether we do or don't get what we want. Philippians 4:12
I have found it much easier in life if i rein in my emotions and live according to the word instead of how i feel. Sometimes, (i have found) when we focus on being a blessing and serving others... what we desire pops up when we least expect it to. Psalm 37:4
I hope this helps.
Disappointment is a part of life and we all have to adjust to it and make our lives something special for God whether we do or don't get what we want. Philippians 4:12
I have found it much easier in life if i rein in my emotions and live according to the word instead of how i feel. Sometimes, (i have found) when we focus on being a blessing and serving others... what we desire pops up when we least expect it to. Psalm 37:4
I hope this helps.
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Everyone wants to live happily. You know, you don't need a man to make you happy. You must first be happy with yourself. You should be more dependant on God for happiness rather then being dependent on some guy. Even if it hurts, even if it's lonely, you must keep your eyes fixed on Jesus.
You can always adopt children and start a family. Or be more involved with the church and it may feel like they are your family.
If it's God's will, he will send someone to you when the time is right.
Keep doing what you're doing to worship God. You have your whole life ahead of you.
You can always adopt children and start a family. Or be more involved with the church and it may feel like they are your family.
If it's God's will, he will send someone to you when the time is right.
Keep doing what you're doing to worship God. You have your whole life ahead of you.
Take heart and have HOPE!
I have learned early on the more you search for something, the harder it will be to find. It is all in God's timing and not our own. We all want to have a loving family and a happy life, but we must wait on God and what He has planned for us.
"Wait for the Lord; Be strong, and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the Lord." Psalm 27:14
I myself have learned that before I enjoy my life with my future husband, I must learn to be happy alone and see the benefits and joys that God has in store for me. I have learned alot, and I am sure I still have more to learn before I get married. I know that I can't force God's hand by fasting, and praying for my future husband. I only can have faith that the time is not right for marriage and children, because God has something special planned for me, as He does for you.
Remember Jeremiah 29:11
"For I know the plans I have for you" declares the Lord " Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11
It is the hope I have regardless on what I go through that I have the promise of God. I have a wood plaque in my bathroom that I read every morning as I get ready for work. It is to remind me that regardless on what my day is or how my life is going, God has His eye upon me and has wonderous plans for my future. I also remind myself that not all these plans are known to me, as my understanding is not the understanding of God, so I must be patient and have faith.
I know it is not always easy, but we must be patience, even though patience is hard. Regardless hardship might come, always remember this scripture (Romans 5:3-5), as it has always helped me see the hope in all hardship I might face and have faced.
"3And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; 4 and perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us." Romans 5:3-5
It is so true, tribulation produces perseverance (patience) and hope to what is to come from the Lord. It is always hard to bear trials and tribulations, but God wants us to learn, be tried by the fire, refined and ready for the plans He has in store. So have hope and be brave, for the Lord DOES see your heartache and HEARS your pleas. He will only move when it is time, and not before.
God bless
)
Shiloh
I have learned early on the more you search for something, the harder it will be to find. It is all in God's timing and not our own. We all want to have a loving family and a happy life, but we must wait on God and what He has planned for us.
"Wait for the Lord; Be strong, and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the Lord." Psalm 27:14
I myself have learned that before I enjoy my life with my future husband, I must learn to be happy alone and see the benefits and joys that God has in store for me. I have learned alot, and I am sure I still have more to learn before I get married. I know that I can't force God's hand by fasting, and praying for my future husband. I only can have faith that the time is not right for marriage and children, because God has something special planned for me, as He does for you.
Remember Jeremiah 29:11
"For I know the plans I have for you" declares the Lord " Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11
It is the hope I have regardless on what I go through that I have the promise of God. I have a wood plaque in my bathroom that I read every morning as I get ready for work. It is to remind me that regardless on what my day is or how my life is going, God has His eye upon me and has wonderous plans for my future. I also remind myself that not all these plans are known to me, as my understanding is not the understanding of God, so I must be patient and have faith.
I know it is not always easy, but we must be patience, even though patience is hard. Regardless hardship might come, always remember this scripture (Romans 5:3-5), as it has always helped me see the hope in all hardship I might face and have faced.
"3And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; 4 and perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5 Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us." Romans 5:3-5
It is so true, tribulation produces perseverance (patience) and hope to what is to come from the Lord. It is always hard to bear trials and tribulations, but God wants us to learn, be tried by the fire, refined and ready for the plans He has in store. So have hope and be brave, for the Lord DOES see your heartache and HEARS your pleas. He will only move when it is time, and not before.
God bless
)Shiloh
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Mendy, Its been my experience that when I turn my eyes to Jesus and "Look full in His wonderful face", as the beloved old hymn says, that "the things of earth (my trials and tribulations) do grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace." Put more focus on Jesus and less focus on yourself.
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God has answered your prayer...He's told you to wait. Patience is important too. Its all in God's time, not ours. When we try to make things happen, we mess things up. Focus on your own healing. Focus on developing your relationship with your Heavenly Father. And yes, pray for your future husband. But be patient. When God picks your husband, he will be your knight in shinning armor and will be everything you've dreamed of and more. I'm saying that from experience. Don't settle for someone either.
hello Mendy,
God is a bit like the Genie in the bottle waiting to answer and give you what you are aking for. If you are praying that you want a husband then God will provide you with exaclty that
the want of a husband.
If you are praying that you want happiness then GOd will provide
the want of happiness.
Do you see the problem.
The answer to being happy is to be happy. The answer to be loved is to be love, take your time and meditate and pray on this then find your own truth and act accordingly.
It is always about what you are not what you do for we are human beings not human doings
GOd bless
God is a bit like the Genie in the bottle waiting to answer and give you what you are aking for. If you are praying that you want a husband then God will provide you with exaclty that
the want of a husband.
If you are praying that you want happiness then GOd will provide
the want of happiness.
Do you see the problem.
The answer to being happy is to be happy. The answer to be loved is to be love, take your time and meditate and pray on this then find your own truth and act accordingly.
It is always about what you are not what you do for we are human beings not human doings
GOd bless
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Palms25, when you speak of people finding their own truth and acting accordingly, is that not analogous with deciding for oneself and "going for it"? What role does God's knowledge of what's best for us play in your scenario? It seems you've confused God with Santa Claus. God exists in space and time; Santa Claus is ficticious.
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Hello Spirit Led,
When you tune in to your heart you are tuning in to God. FOr their in your heart lies love, there in your heart lies God. For God is love. Many think God to good to be true and thus reject ideas of goodness and God being together (hence the santa claus analogy). I personally never think GOd too good to be true. Indeed God is my truth and GOds goodness is his love. Hope that clears up your confusion
God bless
When you tune in to your heart you are tuning in to God. FOr their in your heart lies love, there in your heart lies God. For God is love. Many think God to good to be true and thus reject ideas of goodness and God being together (hence the santa claus analogy). I personally never think GOd too good to be true. Indeed God is my truth and GOds goodness is his love. Hope that clears up your confusion
God bless
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That depends, a heart without God is desperately wicked and in constant rebellion to Him (Jer 17:9).
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The question of using Gods knowledge of what is best for us depends entirlely on what it is we wish to achieve. ONce we have a clear understanding of what it is we are trying to achieve or where it is we want to go or who it is we want to be, then GOd s knowledge will give us that direction.
Just as we can not give someone directions untill they tell us where it is they want to go so it is with Gods knowledge. This is what gives us this experience called life.
Just as we can not give someone directions untill they tell us where it is they want to go so it is with Gods knowledge. This is what gives us this experience called life.
A heart without God is an illusion. GOd lives within our hearts his omnipresence assures us of that. OF course many may have forgotten that truth. Through prayer and meditation we can recreate this awareness and make us whole again. This is wholiness indeed.
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God is omnipresent, but, we Christians believe that when He chose to give mankind free will, He was giving us the choice (and accountability for that choice) of asking Him to "come into our hearts" in terms of asking Him to be our leader.
As to your assertion that God's knowledge of what is good for us depends on what we wish to achieve, you seem to put humans in the seat of command as if God's role is always to make what we desire happen the way we want it to happen with no ill effects; sort of a Santa Claus scenario.
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I find it difficult to imagine a heart without God albeit forgotton by the holder. As for the santa claus thing (not the first time this has been raised) i can only assume that you think that I think that God is too good to be true. Too that i can only plead guilty as charged!
Gods goodness knows no bounds. Gods love is unconditional, this is my unabiding truth. One that I share with many christians yet one that has also incurred the scorn of some.
We are in the seat of command of this experience called life. God gave us this seat of command when he gave us free will. This is the greatest gift we have bestowed on us.
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Do you see God as our loving Heavenly Father? And, if you do, does He discipline His children for their own good as a loving earthly father disciplines his children?
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A loving father educates his children. A loving father raises the awarnenss of his children, a loving father shares with his children what he has learned in the hope that greater enlightenment will occur. For the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. THis is how we evolve as mankind. THis leaves no room for punishment or vengeneance which, for me at least is not love.
In the end we will create a God that is a reflection of ourselves. If we see the need for punishment of our sins then we will create a punishing God. Much of the old testament describes God in this way. It is in much of the new the testament that we see the creation of a loving God. For christ taught us that GOd is love and as we evolved to this new understanding of ourselves we evolve also to a new understanding of GOd.
In the end we will create a God that is a reflection of ourselves. If we see the need for punishment of our sins then we will create a punishing God. Much of the old testament describes God in this way. It is in much of the new the testament that we see the creation of a loving God. For christ taught us that GOd is love and as we evolved to this new understanding of ourselves we evolve also to a new understanding of GOd.
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So how does this loving father of yours handle miscreant children who, using their free will, refuse to heed his sage advice and thus do bad things like murder, rape, assault, cheat on spouses, etc.?
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