First kiss?

[trulyblezzed]

i dont like this idea of 'drawing a line' since when has love been on this or that side of the line. love is a direction of the heart. if you 'draw the line' at hand holding and you do that in lust its still not love. for some a pure kiss might not be possible outside of marriage for other it could be simply an expression of there love. if your acting in love its alllllll good. but love isnt a line, its a direction

Maxx, please understand that by "drawing the line", they meant doing nothing more than holding hands and pop kissing. They weren't talking about drawing the line for love.

To all the teens out there, I personally think that you shouldn't have a boyfriend until you are at least 18. Why? Because as Christians we don't date to just date, we date to mate. Anyone who is not at least 18 is definitely not thinking about marriage and even those who are 18-19 aren't in the "marriage mindset" either. However, if you get with someone when you're at least 18 then you will be together for at least 5 years when you think about marrying that person (you'll be 23). Sounds like a good idea to me!

 

[rizen1]

I agree with Trulyblezzed.
My youth leaders never encourage us to date, we hanged out in groups.
This year we had two marriages and both started dating at 19 even though they liked each other for a long time.

More time is needed in getting to know yourself and God.
http://www.talkjesus.com/soulmate/15570-disease-dating-pt-1-a.html

 

[DaughterofEve]

i dont like this idea of 'drawing a line' since when has love been on this or that side of the line. love is a direction of the heart. if you 'draw the line' at hand holding and you do that in lust its still not love. for some a pure kiss might not be possible outside of marriage for other it could be simply an expression of there love. if your acting in love its alllllll good. but love isnt a line, its a direction

I see what you are saying, but I still believe that MANY lines need to be drawn before you are married. Not lines on love, but lines of what you do while you are in love.

 

[DaughterofEve]

Maxx, please understand that by "drawing the line", they meant doing nothing more than holding hands and pop kissing. They weren't talking about drawing the line for love.

To all the teens out there, I personally think that you shouldn't have a boyfriend until you are at least 18. Why? Because as Christians we don't date to just date, we date to mate. Anyone who is not at least 18 is definitely not thinking about marriage and even those who are 18-19 aren't in the "marriage mindset" either. However, if you get with someone when you're at least 18 then you will be together for at least 5 years when you think about marrying that person (you'll be 23). Sounds like a good idea to me!

I agree. I tell people all the time that I'm not dating before the age of 18 and I am not marring any younger than 22. What's the point of starting too soon?

 

[maxx]

what ims saying is that if you draw a line at say kiss on the cheek you are saying that any action before kiss on the cheak is love and anything past is unlove (in some way) but i can hold hands in a lustfull manner and i can kiss on the lips in a loveing manner. it seems that the line is a way to justify a certian amount of lust. because if it was love it wouldnt need justification

 

[pjnewman]

I heard this on a Living Way podcast a few weeks or more ago. Jack Hayford had some practical advice when it came to dating and kissing and it was simply this in regards to kissing. Kissing is alright in and of itself as long as it stops prior to "French" kissing.
The above is a fairly concise statement from the podcast and I hope to not to offend anyone with detail while still getting the point across.

 

[MegaMegan]

Idk

well i will say that i have never kissed a boy before..
but i think that in reguards to this matter... everyone will have their own boundaries. I do completely disagree with sex before marriage.
Idk if i will save my first kiss for marriage. i guess ill find out sooner or later

 

[Cody]

well i will say that i have never kissed a boy before..
but i think that in reguards to this matter... everyone will have their own boundaries. I do completely disagree with sex before marriage.
Idk if i will save my first kiss for marriage. i guess ill find out sooner or later

No other guy on this world deserves your kiss besides your future husband.

God Bless you

 

[rizen1]

well i will say that i have never kissed a boy before..
but i think that in reguards to this matter... everyone will have their own boundaries. I do completely disagree with sex before marriage.
Idk if i will save my first kiss for marriage. i guess ill find out sooner or later

I believe you will find out, judging by your profile I see you're on the right path.

and dont like it when guys are stupid and ask me to be their gf when they dont even know me
i dont date online so dont ask me

More girls need to think like that, online is not the way at all. If you do click with someone along the way, yeah. But to sign on each day with the motivation to find someone living in another state or country is risky.

I agree everyone will have their own boundaries. But age is a big factor, you start kissing at 13 when you reach 18 you get bored and want to try new things. ( not everyone )


But you go with God, let him be your guide.
God Bless you Megan...

 

[DaughterofEve]

No other guy on this world deserves your kiss besides your future husband.

God Bless you

Good point.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

A kiss on the cheek is a jesture of friendship and deep respect. But, a kiss on the lips is a request for a deeply romantic sensual response, it stirs a desire for sexual activity. The idea of kissing on the lips is not to be taken lightly.

SLE

 

[lou_lou1345]

I had my first kiss at the age of 16 and yes i do sometimes regret not waiting for God to give me the right one. because now i am engaged to the guy God has given me and i was not able to give him my first kiss. so i dont think that age is a factor if you know that God has given you the person but if the person wasnt given from God dont kiss em! because when you eventually find the person that God has for you. you will regret it. I do anyways

lou xx

 

[LoveRevolution]

I think the first kiss in the wedding day can be the best, but for me, it is impossible. But since my reborn I waiting for my marry with that.
And I heard an image somewhere that we are statues and when we kissing others or something like that(e.g. make love), a part of our statue is weathers down. And perhaps for our wife(our husband) we can show nothing from our statue.

 

[DaughterofEve]

Has this happened to you? It's happened many time to me.
You know, I hate it when I hear, "You need to kiss to see if there are any 'sparks.'"
It's pretty depressing to me to hear people say that, as if liking a person or not has to be find out by kissing him/her. To me, that's lowering a very important issue to a low standard.
Do you agree or disagree with that. What do you think?

 

[DaughterofEve]

Actually, I read online about a survery they did at a college.
Out of like 200 students a huge percentage said that they were less attracted to him/her after their first kiss.
Also, the mixing of saliva (even if it's not deep kissing) can cause an increase in a guy's libido. So, kissing can made it harder to resist ceratin temptaions. Not that that's true always, but it is really interesting.

 

[missi]

Has this happened to you? It's happened many time to me.
You know, I hate it when I hear, "You need to kiss to see if there are any 'sparks.'"
It's pretty depressing to me to hear people say that, as if liking a person or not has to be find out by kissing him/her. To me, that's lowering a very important issue to a low standard.
Do you agree or disagree with that. What do you think?

LOL if that were true,, pity if the person meant for you had bad breath at that particular moment you were kissing him. :laugh: Maybe that's one of the many reasons why a lot of marriages end up in divorce..... they think everything's in the first kiss -- the first date -- the first blablabla. tsk.

 

[Just A Mum]

This is a hard one, i kissed my husband, and thought i'd be with him forever. 13 years later and we are no longer together. Just because you wait to kiss, doesn't mean it will work out.

I guess it's more if it's right with the Lord.

 

[StraightToVideo]

I didn't save my first kiss,

I don't see what the big deal is, I kiss alot of my friends goodbye

 

[WaitingHope]

Thats a good thing you are trying to do for your husband one day I admire you for it!! I bet you he will be pleased too.. This day and age it will be hard but so worth it!!

 

[NeduSaysHi]

Brilliant brilliant thread
Everyone I talk to about this thinks I'm crazy.

In my opinion,
since I'm not on the dating thing...
I'm waiting for that divine relationship to unfold
I haven't had any reason to think about kissing anyone
and so my stand not to kiss until marriage is so easy to state.

But I feel, like sex...
kissing is just as special and just as important
and you really need to know who your kissing and why
your kissing before you do so.

"You may now kiss the bride"
On your wedding day, that kiss is symbolic
and I don't think it should be practiced.

Just think,
you may now kiss the bride...

Everyone is different.
And I thank God for our differences.

Make sure whatever you do is in love, and not in lust.
Know God's love before you begin to discover anyone elses

Blessings.... Chinedu x