First kiss?

[DaughterofEve]

Maxx, please understand that by "drawing the line", they meant doing nothing more than holding hands and pop kissing. They weren't talking about drawing the line for love.

To all the teens out there, I personally think that you shouldn't have a boyfriend until you are at least 18. Why? Because as Christians we don't date to just date, we date to mate. Anyone who is not at least 18 is definitely not thinking about marriage and even those who are 18-19 aren't in the "marriage mindset" either. However, if you get with someone when you're at least 18 then you will be together for at least 5 years when you think about marrying that person (you'll be 23). Sounds like a good idea to me!

WOAH!!!! Exactly my philosphy! (and my parents, of course) X]

 

[Jesusgirlkk]

I am saving my first kiss for my husband atleast untill I am engaged. (I want to have done it atleast once before my weding day. I think God wants us to wait. I also believe that we should wait till college to date because I will date to find a husband and I'm not getting married before then

 

[Quenton]

I don't believe in dating at all...but i do believe in saving your first kiss for your spouse I also believe..in saving the dance...and i also have not changed a babies diaper cause i figured I would save that for my kid but thats just me

 

[Alice.]

WOAH!!!! Exactly my philosphy! (and my parents, of course) X]

I don't agree when people say "you shouldn't even be thinking about marriage before 18"

why is that the case? my older best friend has a sister who got married i think a day after her 16th bday and its been at least 20yrs since then and they are still very much in love.

 

[apollymia]

Do you believe in saving your first kiss until you are married? I do. Partly beacuse I think if you kiss every date you have, kissing does not seem exiting anymore and it feels like the same old, same old. Does anybody else think the same thing? If you want, I can pm you the name of a Christian book over the subject.
Love,
your sis in Christ, Julie.

i think that maybe that would be wise...........i think it would not be ok to stick your tongue down somebody else's throat if they will dump you later

 

[InProgression]

Too extreme

I do believe in waiting until marriage to engage in sexual activity, but as far as kissing I say why not. If the both are you are walking in christ and have made the decision to remain pure it is much easier to abstain from kissing, but if one is not then its much harder. I am a christian and I have made the decision to remain pure, but I do kiss. I know my limits and he knows them too. We;re both christians so its good, but there are times when we do go a bit to far and we acknowledge it and we stop. I commend you for waiting to have your first kiss when you're married, but not me, its too late anyway and I dont regret a thing.

 

[who.memike123]

just something i heard at a youth conference

i was at a youth conference in virginia, and we have this service type of thing at the end where anybody can pass a note up to the preachers with a question on it. that was one of the questions. the preacher replied with "dont touch what isn't yours" aka "wait till you are considered one person by god(married)"

 

[christianjeenn]

I don't think there is reservations about this kiss thing these days if you have a boyfriend. But then yes, I agree that preserving this kiss after marrying is quite exciting... it's pleasing to GOd though...


this is an interesting topic... hehe... Well, I never had tasted this kiss any more since 2001, with my 2nd and last filipino BF... All of my exes after him is online so...


Well, at least I am not sinning for about 10 years now...

 

[am0eba18]

I have seen what damage a little kiss can cause. It is like putting a can of gunpowder by a very little fire.

me too. from my personal experience, the harmless and the what i thought to be a gentle kiss eventually became more of an avenue for satan's temptation, than for it to be an expression of love. it was a stronhold even (in the negative sense of the word).

but before my first date/kiss i was always a believer of saving my first kiss for my future wife. as richard puts it...

My wife and I had our first kiss when we got married - there were no regrets there!

God has intended us for each other and we did not want to explore that area of our relationship - the gift that God had pepared in each of us for each other - until it was the right time, which was when we had offered ourselves to each other, completely and forever!

I would not try to make a rule of it for anyone, we were just doing what we felt that God wanted us to do, in our circumstances, at that time, and it could be different for other couples...

but sad to say i relied more on my strength to uphold what i believe in than relying on God's grace to sustain me (verses that helps- prov 3:5; ephesians 2:8-10). a little compromise is a certain demise.

but good news is, if we confess our sins, HE is faithful and just to forgive us from all unrighteousness. HE remembers our sins no more.

and hey, to those who are battling whether to save the first kiss, solomon teaches us not to awaken love before its time. and if it's real love you have for your gf/bf, then it must be patient until you walk down the aisle (corinthians tells us what love is)

"don't touch what isn't yours" thanks who.memike123

 

[HannahBanana]

I am soo with you. My mom always taught me to wait for the right guy, and only kiss him if you know for sure he is the one, and you guys will get married. A kiss is something special to only be shared with your future spouse.

 

[stephon]

purity

i think it's great if one is able to refrain from inappropriate intimacy before one gets married.

although i know it's an area where many young people stumble.

whether God will give me strength to obey Him rather than the desires of my flesh will say something about the sincerity of my commitment to him.

i haven't kissed a girl yet although i've been tempted - i think being a virgin in every sense of the word is a great gift men and women can give each other when they get married.

 

[loverules]

I've never kissed a guy and am pretty happy to say so (although alot of people get a shock on their face when i tell them, it is pretty funny to see their reaction lol).

loads of love and God bless

x kirsty x

 

[skipbeat]

Do you believe in saving your first kiss until you are married? I do. Partly because I think if you kiss every date you have, kissing does not seem exiting anymore and it feels like the same old, same old. Does anybody else think the same thing? If you want, I can pm you the name of a Christian book over the subject.
Love,
your sis in Christ, Julie.

I've never really thought about saving a kiss mostly because I've never been kissed and I'm 19. But i also know i won't be dating a hundred of a thousand of guys so i won't need to worry about kissing a bunch of guys. I do believe in dating but there is a limit of course to how many man you date before settling for one. I think a kiss is something special and should be saved for a special someone. I do agree that you shouldn't kiss on every date lol there are other ways to show affection.

Great post Julie :wink:got me thinking.