Forum for adult discussions?

[Truehearts]

Voted No, because nowadays we dont know if one will sign up and just put his/her age different then will go around trying to blend in discussions but then got something else in mind....
If so sign ups will need scanned identities to be sure of their legal age...so as it will become more and more complicated, I agree with SLE we have the mens and womens forum and if anyone needs deeper counseling on some subject, PM can always be an option.

Just my thoughts, im not qualified to the adult area though.

 

[my_little_pony]

hi all,

I voted "yes". I think a "mens" thread and a "womens" thread is slightly different to an "adult" thread.

Also, I feel a disclaimer (or whatever) before entering is enough to discourage lawsuits from would-be "i'm offended at you" folks. If porn sites can use it for something immoral, why can't we use it for something moral?

I understand that some topics really are for adults, but I also feel that, along with an "adults" thread, you could just as easily and relevantly create a general "sex" thread. I am suggesting that anyone, perhaps over the age of 13, could enter this thread.

Why not? Well it would take a lot of moderation and it's not clear if that kind of man/woman power is available.

However, it's VERY common for young teens to have sex these days. There is heaps of pressure from all over the place, especially in media. Sex isn't wrong in itself; it's immoral sex that is wrong. The category of "young people" is the BEST place to start as far as education or discussion on sex is concerned. As long as we do it in a mature and considerate way (which I think applies to any adult thread, too), I think a lot of young people would actually appreciate a place where they can discuss sexual issues anonymously and expect mature responses from regulars here.

Sure, there will be perverts or the immature coming in to sabotage or derail the topic, but then again, there aint many places on this earth where you can go to escape something like that.

And besides, if WE are mature about it, then even dealing with the perverts in a mature way can be a positive influence on anyone looking on. besides, Jesus said he came for the sick, right?

I think that goes for a young people's sex ed thread or an adults only thread.

 

[spirit1st]

sex would be one of course! but the Meat of the word! The deeper trues young folks would not understand!

Heb_5:14 But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.


It can cause confuses for the young christian!

The young christian needs to learn the basic trues first!
Lots of people cuss me and more for preaching the deeper trues! It takes the Spirit of truth to open our eyes to these deeper trues and there correct understanding!

Listen i been born of God since 1972 !I am still learning ! Just a while back God revealed to me , our Spirit is the temple of God! For years i thought it was our flesh body! But there is no good thing in our flesh body! It our spirit body He changes and then dwells in !
It only our spirit that goes to heaven or hell ! We still dwell in the same dying sin filled body !Till we leave it !


Rom 1:9 For God is my witness, whom I serve with my spirit in the gospel of his Son

Rom 8:10 And if Christ be in you, the body is dead because of sin; but the Spirit is life because of righteousness.

1Co_15:44 It is sown a natural body; it is raised a spiritual body. There is a natural body, and there is a spiritual body.

Rom 8:8 So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.

Rom_9:8 That is, They which are the children of the flesh, these are not the children of God:

1Co_15:50 Now this I say, brethren, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God; neither doth corruption inherit incorruption.


Mat_16:17 And Jesus answered and said unto him, Blessed art thou, Simon Barjona: for flesh and blood hath not revealed it unto thee, but my Father which is in heaven.

1Co_2:10 But God hath revealed them unto us by his Spirit: for the Spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God.


Rom 8:5 For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.

Rom 8:16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:

Rom 8:27 And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit

Each of us are a Spirit being! It our Spirit that goes to Heaven [New Jerusalem ] Or hell !

 

[my_little_pony]

sex would be one of course! but the Meat of the word! The deeper trues young folks would not understand!

Hmm, well, whether they understand it or not, they are doing it. I don't think they will be impressed with arguments about how or why they won't understand sex because they lack the deep reasoning that you have.

Besides, I'm not talking about some deep spiritual truth that only a few people can understand. In fact, that's the exact opposite of what I was suggesting. I was talking about being frank and simple in our discussion of sex issues.

[QUOTEIt can cause confuses for the young christian! ][/QUOTE]

Well, confusion certainly isn't limited to "young people". Sometimes genuine discussion is the best way to overcome confusion, too.

What is a *****? What is a ******? How do they work and what happens as a result? What is romance? Why do males and females like each other and why are females so difficult to get along with? (ha!)

Anyway, the thought about a thread for sex issues, in general, was just an add-on to the actual topic of this thread, which is about an adults only thread.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

How can I do a ministry from home? How can I show the fruits and share my gifts of the spirit to other believers (to edify the body) if I'm not around them?

Years ago (before I actually asked Jesus into my heart) an ambulance passed me on the street one day red lights flashing and siren blaring. A thought came into my mind, "Why don't you pray for the patient that ambulance crew is helping?" Though I didn't know it at the time, that was God speaking and for about thirty years now I've been praying for ambulance patients I don't know and for healing of conditions unknown. It makes no difference if I know them or not. The only important thing is that God loves them and they need His help. Its my job to try to link the two together by praying for their healing.

SLE

 

[AbbysAunt]

I voted no. I"m not understanding why you would want to bring sex into these forums. This is the one place I can go to that remains clean and it worries me that if we bring this into forums its just going to open it up to something its not supposed to be. We have private messaging for anyone needing help in that catagory and we are willing to help and listen but to have it publicly on a forum I don't think that is for the best.

 

[spirit1st]

Jas_5:16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.


1Jn_5:15 And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.

Joh_16:24 Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.

 

[my_little_pony]

. This is the one place I can go to that remains clean

Hi Abbysaunt. I think I understand your concerns, but I also think it is important to note that sex in itself isn't dirty. I think the idea is that people discuss issues in a mature way.

it worries me that if we bring this into forums its just going to open it up to something its not supposed to be.

That's what moderators are for.

Besides, what it is "supposed" to be is what the discussion is about. In these kinds of discussion it's helpful to be able to see the pros and cons. Doesn't this forum already experience perverts or troublemakers trying to come in and, well, make trouble?

On the other hand, if there are not enough moderators to regulate an "adults" thread, then your concern may be more justified.

 

[AbbysAunt]

I'm not saying sex when done in accordance with God is dirty because I know if it is done according to His word and His ways it is a beautiful thing between husband and wife. However it is not something we need to bring into a christian site this is not Talk sex or Adult Talk it is Talk Jesus Plain and simple.

You spoke of the troublemakers that we get sometimes now on this site...yes that is what moderators are for but its my concern that if this does go the site it will bring even more than we have already and why on earth bring that kind of thing to a christian site that is peaceful and where Jesus resides. Did Our Lord say to His disciplies or anyone else that He taught or preached to" Hey I know lets have adult talk and we can talk about sex issues" I don't think so..the only Time He talked about sex was to let us know what is and isn't acceptable He didn't offer any other advice that I know of so, im not getting just what kind of advice we can offer accept what our Lord has already stated in the bible.

 

[Brighthouse]

Brother Chad, Here is the real question one has to answer. Could this?? Or would this,give the devil an opportunity??( eph 4:27) When talking about sex,as you well know, many other question come into play as well.

Mental things,things that can affect many who are unstable in Christ. This of course is your call!! But will one door open, lead to another to open you do not wish? This only you can decide. I personally have no problem talking about this subject.

But it is what this subject can lead to. And how it can effect others who do discuss this matter. This subject is important to many here,and with good reason! But to control this subject, may be another matter.

When we came to Jesus,most were not told of the true cost of service,I sure was not! I had to find out on my own,as many of you did! This led to great hardship,because we thought by becoming a believer, we would also be saved, from others things.This of course was no so.

It rains on the just, and unjust.( matt 5:45) Sometimes if we take charge of something,the rain does not stop for a longer period of time either. Just a thought Chad!! I believe you will do what is right for you and this site,I fully believe you are led by Holy Spirit.Some may disagree, or agree,no matter what you decide. I will not render any judgement on this matter. It is not my field to do so. Blessing to you Brother Chad!

 

[RJ]

Voted yes because I would appreciate some serious Adult Discussion on the "meat" of the scriptures and not just baby food.

Also, I find the Chat Room has too much "Chit-Chat", even gossip and not enough discussions about the word of God. So, I don't know how you control that and how you control the age of those allowed in.

 

[spirit1st]

Co 8:8 But meat commendeth us not to God: for neither, if we eat, are we the better; neither, if we eat not, are we the worse.
1Co 8:9 But take heed lest by any means this liberty of yours become a stumblingblock to them that are weak.

We must be careful with the young Christian!

1Co_6:12 All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.
1Co_10:23 All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not.


Heb_12:7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? Heb_12:6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
Deu_8:5 Thou shalt also consider in thine heart, that, as a man chasteneth his son, so the LORD thy God chasteneth thee.
Heb_12:6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.

We are to be examples to others

 

[my_little_pony]

Did Our Lord say to His disciplies or anyone else that He taught or preached to" Hey I know lets have adult talk and we can talk about sex issues" I don't think so

Well, we don't know. All we know is what is recorded.

Also, it may be helpful to clarify that MY thoughts are regarding general sex issues, and not specific, personal problems people are going through.

For example, if a woman finds out that her husband is cheating on her, I think it would probably be inappropriate (and maybe a bit dangerous) for that woman to share such personal information on the internet, unless she was doing so totally anonymously and in an attempt to get some Christian fellowship/counsel on what to do.

Besides prayer and the teachings of Jesus, Godly counsel is also a way to hear from God.

Also, the question itself, "what is the Christian response to adultery in a marriage"? Sounds like a reasonable discussion which could very well include sexual content.

What about "How many times should I date before getting married"? OR "Should I have sex before getting married to know if he/she really is the one I want?"

What about "Is masturbation really a sin and if so, why"? It's not only teenagers who struggle with that issue.

Or, how about what it takes to keep a married couple interested in one another? Paul talks about how a couple should not keep themselves from one another for extended periods of time to avoid temptation. That sounds sexual. He talked about virgins; that is sexual in content, too.

I know of workshops designed for married women, and workshops designed for couples on how to keep the marriage sexually exciting. It was a genuine attempt at helping women/couples to understand that discussion about sex doesn't have to be dirty or taboo, although discretion should always be used, too.

I think the idea for an adult forum, here, is something similar to that; to create an environment where Christians can discuss issues without feeling like they'll be laughed at, betrayed or whatever else may happen in their other environments.

 

[spirit1st]

God put certain desires in each of us that is Not bad1 but if we let it get control of us ,instead of us controlling these desires they can become Sin and great problems for us all !

Rom_8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
Rom_8:4 That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
Gal_5:16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
Gal_5:25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.

i KNOW and understand ? He wants us walking and living More in our own Spirit !Once born of God! then we hear him much better and can serve Him much more perfectly!
Our new Spirit will not Sin or do anything displeasing to our Father GOD !

That why He said ? We would Fast! I know fasting , Causes our Inward man to gain control over our weak flesh! i find it only takes about 3 full days water only for us to live much more though our hidden man [spirit]

It only our spirit that is His holy Child!

1Co_15:50 Now this I say, brethren, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God; neither doth corruption inherit incorruption.

Rom_9:8 That is, They which are the children of the flesh, these are not the children of God

Rom_8:10 And if Christ be in you, the body is dead because of sin; but the Spirit is life because of righteousness. 1Co_15:44 It is sown a natural body; it is raised a spiritual body. There is a natural body, and there is a spiritual body.

 

[Brother Mike]

I am thinking

Adult, Teen, adult, teen..........

Teens face some of the same issues. Making it adult should not make it more lewd. I just saw a news article about a 11 year old getting pregnant by a 25 year old. The 25 year old killed himself to avoid prosecution, now that has to be some adult stuff if you will for that 11 year old.

I don't think in this day and age the line on what is discussed is so clear as it once was. When Our Pastor talks about very adult stuff, anyone over 13 is allowed to stay and listen.

It could be we need a Women's only section, as men and women seem to look at things different, with different perspectives.

Jesus Is Lord.

 

[dannibear]

Adult, Teen, adult, teen..........

Teens face some of the same issues. Making it adult should not make it more lewd. I just saw a news article about a 11 year old getting pregnant by a 25 year old. The 25 year old killed himself to avoid prosecution, now that has to be some adult stuff if you will for that 11 year old.

I don't think in this day and age the line on what is discussed is so clear as it once was. When Our Pastor talks about very adult stuff, anyone over 13 is allowed to stay and listen.

It could be we need a Women's only section, as men and women seem to look at things different, with different perspectives.

Jesus Is Lord.

I can also add on to that. Many adults would be surprised
to hear what high school students talk about.
I have heard it all: abortion, sex outside of marriage,
teens who DO get married, drugs, alcohol, violence,
self afflicted pain, dirty jokes and words, the list goes on.
I agree, slapping the word 'adult' on it doesn't make
much of a difference.

By the way Brother Mike, we already have a women's
only forum. You just don't fit the requirement
to get in.

 

[jiggyfly]

My two cents ( I have a lot of pennies). Having adult, men, women, and teen forums is not just about the material discussed, it is the discussion itself. Bottom line is generally men and women do not think the same way about things, nor do adults and teens. We have open forums where these opinions can be mixed, but specific forums help to keep the more directed discussions flowing. If you try to discuss algebra with a preschooler or physics with a 3rd grader, everyone will end up frustrated.

I wish we had a specific forum for the more spiritually mature for discussions on topics which generally cause a rash of trouble in the open forums.

 

[dannibear]

I wish we had a specific forum for the more spiritually mature for discussions on topics which generally cause a rash of trouble in the open forums.

How do we determine spiritual maturity?
Are you talking about in reference to knowledge of
the Bible? Experience as a Christian? Age?
How can we know who is spiritually mature without
ever having met the person except through a computer
screen, with no look into their lives?

 

[jiggyfly]

How do we determine spiritual maturity?
Are you talking about in reference to knowledge of
the Bible? Experience as a Christian? Age?
How can we know who is spiritually mature without
ever having met the person except through a computer
screen, with no look into their lives?

Well when it comes to spiritual knowledge if one continually chokes on solid spiritual food then it's a good indication they are still immature.

Another is to seek God and be led by HolySpirit, we know by current events that even face to face interaction can be deceiving. There are many who have been pastors for years caught in sexual weaknesses and then lie about it, yet many followed them and thought they were spiritually mature.

I know by his teachings that T.Austin Sparks was a very mature teacher and mentor.

 

[Brother Mike]

Good Idea.

Jiggyfly:

Another is to seek God and be led by HolySpirit, we know by current events that even face to face interaction can be deceiving. There are many who have been pastors for years caught in sexual weaknesses and then lie about it, yet many followed them and thought they were spiritually mature.

I know by his teachings that T.Austin Sparks was a very mature teacher and mentor.

A spiritually Mature only forum would be great!!! Now who post here that would have enough spiritual sense to know they should not be treading in the Spiritually mature section only?

Certain people Moderator considered? After a many number of post?

Jesus Is Lord.