I do indeed see a contradiction brakelite, the problem
or paradox does exist in what you stated.
Romans 6:23
For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life
in Christ Jesus our Lord.
The free gift according to your interpretation is not free
at all. It is based on your ability or performance to selected
criteria. Salvation itself is not granted to us in Grace but
is subject to a performance review?
David, if the law was designed to reveal sin, and grace designed to save from sin, how can there be any incompatability or conflict between them? The law was never designed to save, nor was grace ever desingned to point out sin. Thus rather than being incompatable, they are in fact complimentary, so long as they are being used for the purpose for which they are intended. There can be no conflict between the two priciples, because they are both designed to operate in distinctly different areas of spiritual life, and for very different purposes.
Conflict doesn't arise until someone attempts to use the law for the purpose of salvation, thus imposing the law into grace's territory so to speak. The problem you are having is your inability to recognise and understand that obedience can also be by grace. It all comes down to motivation. As sinners we can attempt to obey the law out of fear of hell, and we will fail. As sinners we are asked to do something, obey, that we didn't really want to do. Righteousness or holiness was to us an obnoxious sentiment to be avoided at all costs. The Ten Commandemnts were irritating sores we would ignore, scratch, cover over, apply medication to...anything to get rid of the itch. As Christian however our hearts are changed. The law becomes a delight. To obey Jesus commands is our greatest pleasure. Why? Because our motives have changed. We aren't obeying out of fear, not even to gain brownie points on the way to heaven. We obey because we love Jesus. The commandments have become commandments of grace.
And as we surrender ourselves in faith, believing Christ's promises of power and grace toward us,
the commandments become promises.
Thou
shalt have no other gods before Me.
Thou
shalt not make any graven image.
Thou
shalt not take the My name in vain.
Thou
shalt remember to keep holy My Sabbath day.
Thou
shalt honour you parents.
Thou
shalt not kill.
Thou
shalt not steal.
Thou
shalt not commit adultery.
Thou
shalt not lie.
Thou
shalt not covet.
God's word becomes a creative power...He writes His law upon our hearts and minds....through His grace and power our obedience becomes an unconcious reality. All we need to be is willing, and God will do the rest. All by grace.
Therefore, far from grace and law being somehow incompatable bedfellows, they compliment each other perfectly.
"For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending His Son in the likeness of sinful fleash and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh,
that the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us who walk not after the flesh but after the Spirit." Romans 8:3,4.
Thus our surrender, our self denial, become imperative to salvation, because without emptying ourslves of self, we cannot be filled with His Spirit. God will only fill a vacuum. He doesn't impose, He doesn't push aside or cast out anything that we desire to hold on to, including sin. Sanctification is a process of submission on our part and gracious changes for the better on God's part. Obedience is our choice David. You can obey all His commandments by His grace, if you let Him accomplish all He desires. This is presicely what it means to be changed into the image of Christ. We were created in the image of Christ, but that image become corrupted and marred through sin. God would have it that we regain that which Adam lost, characters moulded after Christ's own righteousness. Children of God walking in the power of the Holy Spirit with obedient, submissive, child-like characters who love and follow Jesus wherever He leads.