Women who want to be holy, don’t marry men who choose bad women

[Christ4Ever]

There is another thing I don’t understand.

Why does God allow the same painful situation to appear in my life again and again? There is ALWAYS an evil woman trying to sabotage any hopes of a relationship for me. Even you said that I have experienced it way too much.

I don’t understand what good is coming out of this when I become more and more jaded and my heart is becoming more closed off. I already have a taste of how God feels when we rob Him of the love He deserves by loving idols, so why let me go through it over and over?

I can’t get over the feeling of being robbed again and again. Even if one of those men who wronged me for an evil woman comes back and truly loves me, I would find that love distasteful. This kind of love is low to me and I feel insulted that only now does anyone decide I’m worthy of it. That is why I cannot accept anyone like that back into my life, doing so brings about a constant reminder of how this same person once gave his love to someone else. Do you understand what I’m feeling?

If I was God I would have rejected the entire humanity. I don’t know how God is able to accept a love that was once robbed from Him but I’m not God. I can’t tolerate it.

Dear Sister,
Things normally happen in our lives, if by the direction of God, or allowed to by God, for the purposing of showing us, or another something that needs to be learned. Rarely do we take the hint that it is in us, that something needs to change, and if so, then it must assuredly be in the others. If you're like me, then you're probably a bit thick headed about it, and are going in the wrong direction or stubbornly staying in the same spot.

Determining what God wants you to learn/grow from, verses our own desires is where you're at. Sadly, it appears you might even be heading in the opposite direction. Instead of opening yourself up to what God wants of you to learn, you're closing yourself off more and more instead. It's not just accepting what has happened, and I'm not saying loving the bad experiences, but rather the perps involved who are in need of a great amount of help and God in their lives. I'm sure you don't picture that they are the ones that need the help, instead of yourself! Your focus is on "you" and until your heart becomes flesh completely, the stone that resides therein when things happen like they have happened to you, getting past it, nor getting the relationship you desire, if that is God's will for you is not going to happen.
Don't forget that God, you, and these others aren't the only players in what is happening in your life. There is an Adversary that wants nothing good for you, and he'll do whatever it takes to see you fail/fall. Even telling you what you can or can't do, even though the Power of God is in you!!! It appears you are listening to him more and more, because he's telling you the things that your humanity/flesh/imperfection wants to hear...."Don't forgive, you're not God so how can I let it slide by without them getting what they deserve", "payback", and the list goes on and on...

One question or I'd be writing another chapter in a book to you, plus I have to go take care of my wife!

Dear Sister, what did God ask of you before accepting/receiving you through His Son Jesus Christ Sacrifice on the Cross?

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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[Godbehonored]

Dear Sister,
Things normally happen in our lives, if by the direction of God, or allowed to by God, for the purposing of showing us, or another something that needs to be learned. Rarely do we take the hint that it is in us, that something needs to change, and if so, then it must assuredly be in the others. If you're like me, then you're probably a bit thick headed about it, and are going in the wrong direction or stubbornly staying in the same spot.

Determining what God wants you to learn/grow from, verses our own desires is where you're at. Sadly, it appears you might even be heading in the opposite direction. Instead of opening yourself up to what God wants of you to learn, you're closing yourself off more and more instead. It's not just accepting what has happened, and I'm not saying loving the bad experiences, but rather the perps involved who are in need of a great amount of help and God in their lives. I'm sure you don't picture that they are the ones that need the help, instead of yourself! Your focus is on "you" and until your heart becomes flesh completely, the stone that resides therein when things happen like they have happened to you, getting past it, nor getting the relationship you desire, if that is God's will for you is not going to happen.
Don't forget that God, you, and these others aren't the only players in what is happening in your life. There is an Adversary that wants nothing good for you, and he'll do whatever it takes to see you fail/fall. Even telling you what you can or can't do, even though the Power of God is in you!!! It appears you are listening to him more and more, because he's telling you the things that your humanity/flesh/imperfection wants to hear...."Don't forgive, you're not God so how can I let it slide by without them getting what they deserve", "payback", and the list goes on and on...

One question or I'd be writing another chapter in a book to you, plus I have to go take care of my wife!

Dear Sister, what did God ask of you before accepting/receiving you through His Son Jesus Christ Sacrifice on the Cross?

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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I am open to what God wants me to learn/grow from, I just don’t have a definite answer which is why I asked on here. As for those involved that need help, I have been and still am praying for the man who is bewitched and also the woman who has evil spirits involved in the seduction. I prayed for God to open the eyes of this man and give him discernment as to what kind of woman he has chosen so he gets out before being burned. There is clearly a spiritual war going on and there is a veil of deception which blocks him from seeing things clearly. I did not solely focus on myself.

I am willing to forgive, I just don’t know why the feelings of loss and repulsion are so stuck in me. I prayed to God about it, it still comes up from time to time. If I planned to hold onto these feelings I wouldn’t bother mentioning them to you, I would just hold onto them in secret.

As to your question, He asked us to repent of our sins, the prerequisite of forgiveness. Nothing else.

That is why God is God. He can accept a love He was robbed of, because He is infinitely forgiving and can tolerate pain much more than a human can. If I had that level of tolerance and forgiveness I wouldn’t be here.

 

[Christ4Ever]

I am open to what God wants me to learn/grow from, I just don’t have a definite answer which is why I asked on here. As for those involved that need help, I have been and still am praying for the man who is bewitched and also the woman who has evil spirits involved in the seduction. I prayed for God to open the eyes of this man and give him discernment as to what kind of woman he has chosen so he gets out before being burned. There is clearly a spiritual war going on and there is a veil of deception which blocks him from seeing things clearly. I did not solely focus on myself.

I am willing to forgive, I just don’t know why the feelings of loss and repulsion are so stuck in me. I prayed to God about it, it still comes up from time to time. If I planned to hold onto these feelings I wouldn’t bother mentioning them to you, I would just hold onto them in secret.

As to your question, He asked us to repent of our sins, the prerequisite of forgiveness. Nothing else.

That is why God is God. He can accept a love He was robbed of, because He is infinitely forgiving and can tolerate pain much more than a human can. If I had that level of tolerance and forgiveness I wouldn’t be here.

Dear Sister,
Thank-you for answering my question. Spot on; "repent of our sins, the prerequisite of forgiveness"
Something good to remember when dealing with others who have also caused us pain/hurt. (I'm speaking to us and not of them here.)

Pray that God's will be done, in helping them both. Don't seek to determine what that might be. What you might be seeing as the issue, might only be the symptom and not the root cause. That is why it is better to turn it over to God, and then allow Him to get to work, without determining for Him how He needs to go about fixing it. Happens to me more times than I'd like to admit when praying for others!

Also, important is moving away from the focus being us, and that will take time. Being a Child of the Most High, is more then the imperfect human person we are, all the while growing to who He wants us to be in Him. Which of course will not be completed until that day! Not surprisingly, others will start to see the change in you before you do!

Thanks for replying, and I'll continue to pray for His coverage over you. What change you need He knows better then I or anyone else will ever know and so I won't be giving Him any specifics to work with you on!

With the Love of Christ Jesus, who is also sending a brotherly hug.
YBIC
Nick
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[Godbehonored]

Dear Sister,
Thank-you for answering my question. Spot on; "repent of our sins, the prerequisite of forgiveness"
Something good to remember when dealing with others who have also caused us pain/hurt. (I'm speaking to us and not of them here.)

Pray that God's will be done, in helping them both. Don't seek to determine what that might be. What you might be seeing as the issue, might only be the symptom and not the root cause. That is why it is better to turn it over to God, and then allow Him to get to work, without determining for Him how He needs to go about fixing it. Happens to me more times than I'd like to admit when praying for others!

Also, important is moving away from the focus being us, and that will take time. Being a Child of the Most High, is more then the imperfect human person we are, all the while growing to who He wants us to be in Him. Which of course will not be completed until that day! Not surprisingly, others will start to see the change in you before you do!

Thanks for replying, and I'll continue to pray for His coverage over you. What change you need He knows better then I or anyone else will ever know and so I won't be giving Him any specifics to work with you on!

With the Love of Christ Jesus, who is also sending a brotherly hug.
YBIC
Nick
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I’m so frustrated right now. Someone I knew who saw through her wrote messages to this man to warn him about the woman he is with. Not only did he not take the warning seriously he ran right back into her arms. All the message said was to get to know this woman over time for who she is and don’t let how a woman makes you feel fool you. But he still won’t listen!

 

[Godbehonored]

Dear Sister,
Thank-you for answering my question. Spot on; "repent of our sins, the prerequisite of forgiveness"
Something good to remember when dealing with others who have also caused us pain/hurt. (I'm speaking to us and not of them here.)

Pray that God's will be done, in helping them both. Don't seek to determine what that might be. What you might be seeing as the issue, might only be the symptom and not the root cause. That is why it is better to turn it over to God, and then allow Him to get to work, without determining for Him how He needs to go about fixing it. Happens to me more times than I'd like to admit when praying for others!

Also, important is moving away from the focus being us, and that will take time. Being a Child of the Most High, is more then the imperfect human person we are, all the while growing to who He wants us to be in Him. Which of course will not be completed until that day! Not surprisingly, others will start to see the change in you before you do!

Thanks for replying, and I'll continue to pray for His coverage over you. What change you need He knows better then I or anyone else will ever know and so I won't be giving Him any specifics to work with you on!

With the Love of Christ Jesus, who is also sending a brotherly hug.
YBIC
Nick
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I resent this man now. For a time I could tell he kept his distance from me because he suspected me for who knows what. I bet that Jezebel is planting subtle lies in his head about what I have never done or said but this man has chosen to believe in her more than me. She has completely bewitched him.

This keeps happening over and over. I’ve lost jobs and relationships over and over to Jezebels taking over!

 

[Christ4Ever]

I’m so frustrated right now. Someone I knew who saw through her wrote messages to this man to warn him about the woman he is with. Not only did he not take the warning seriously he ran right back into her arms. All the message said was to get to know this woman over time for who she is and don’t let how a woman makes you feel fool you. But he still won’t listen!

Why are you frustrated? Most times a person has to find themselves in the gutter, before they'll look up to our Heavenly Father to seek the help that they need! Surely you don't think that he'll listen to you or someone else, if he won't listen to God or His Word??? The flesh is weak and battles the Spirit every day. If you're not in the Word, and putting it to good use, what do you think would happen?? You've said enough on these folks in this thread to show that they aren't thinking with anything but the flesh!!! Until that changes, they won't change. They need to turn back to God!!

You can help with that, but it's not by being frustrated or taking their ignorance personally. First and foremost, it's praying for them. Not for one and not the other, because you like him, and hate her. Nope that's not how it works. You be praying for them both girl!!! You want them both to know the Lord, and to live Holy lives that they might bring honor to God!! It's not about you, and if it is, it's about your sacrifice of your desires that God might be Glorified!!! If you can do that, you'll have a joy that will have other people scratching their heads in wonderment on how that could be when they knew how you were feeling about them to begin with!!! That's when you tell them it's all about your God, Lord and Savior Jesus!!!

Hard to do Sister! And I'm sure the Adversary won't like it when you start moving in that direction of doing. Might even get worse for awhile, but then the power of God will start moving, and no one, Adversary or Man will be able to stand to the change that will happen!!! Probably won't even be as you expect it to be, but like I said you'll receive a joy that will have you laughing not with bitterness, but with true joy in how wonderful and amazing is the God that we serve!!! Alleluia!!!

I resent this man now. For a time I could tell he kept his distance from me because he suspected me for who knows what. I bet that Jezebel is planting subtle lies in his head about what I have never done or said but this man has chosen to believe in her more than me. She has completely bewitched him.

This keeps happening over and over. I’ve lost jobs and relationships over and over to Jezebels taking over!

Your resentment goes hand in hand with your frustration. Just another side of the same coin. Holding on to it, and thinking about what they do, or don't do isn't going to do you any good what so ever. In fact you'll probably be the one with the ulcer, and all you'll see is them laughing and having a good time. All the while you're grinding your teeth, and cursing under your breath or into the pillow how unfair life is and how you wish a rock would fall out of the sky and crush them both or maybe on you too!!!

The reason you're so put out is that instead of living for the Lord and not being concerned about the benefits you get, you're worried about how others are getting over, and getting what surely you were more deserving of! Sometimes even in the disguise of thinking it's for their own wellbeing! Been there done that. Grrrrrrrrrr Don't get me wrong, I'm not unfeeling to what you've gone through, because I've experienced those things firsthand as well. So much so that it would rear its head up now and again, and though I thought I had put it behind me, I could still feel the anger/frustration trying to rise again in me. In time I've realized that even if no one else knew, I knew that God knows, and its better that he knows then if I'm forgotten period for any good I may have done! That's why you pray for that peace that the World doesn't understand, and only comes from Christ Jesus.

"Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. John 14:27 NKJV

Sister, we have so much to look forward to, that whatever we think we have lost here on Earth, it won't hold a candle to!!! Yeah, sure I'd like to be having it/experiencing it now, but in a little while we will be rejoicing with no end!

Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later. Romans 8:18 NLT

Hearing how you talk, it almost seems like you're having a self-fulfilling prophecy in that something keeps happening, and so you expect it to keep happening! It might be happening like this for many reasons. God might feel you haven't learned what you need to learn yet, or maybe the Adversary knows it bothers you to no end so he's making sure you continue to experience it so you'll turn away from God...that you know it happens, and will probably continue to happen, just means you have to learn how to deal with those situations in a manner that instead of it being hurtful/painful that it's becomes something that glorifies God with!!! When you are able to do that, I can almost guarantee you that they will stop happening!!! Why? Because if its God causing it, when you change you will have shown Him that you have learned from it, and if it's the Adversary, you will have shown him that God is good all the time no matter what continues to happen in your life! He'll then move on to pester someone else, because you're no longer any fun to mess with!

Don't expect others to change sister, unless God works on them. So, if you are having expectations of seeing change in others, then it will take a lot of knee time, and knowing that there's a good chance you'll never see it to fruition. Meaning you might never see the results of your prayer where they change, but in your faithfulness know that God listens, and His will, will be done!

If faithful you are, and I don't mean to this man, but to God. Then whatever happens after turning it over to our Heavenly Father should be enough for you, which won't be easy but when it happens...

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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[Godbehonored]

Dear Sister,
Thank-you for answering my question. Spot on; "repent of our sins, the prerequisite of forgiveness"
Something good to remember when dealing with others who have also caused us pain/hurt. (I'm speaking to us and not of them here.)

Pray that God's will be done, in helping them both. Don't seek to determine what that might be. What you might be seeing as the issue, might only be the symptom and not the root cause. That is why it is better to turn it over to God, and then allow Him to get to work, without determining for Him how He needs to go about fixing it. Happens to me more times than I'd like to admit when praying for others!

Also, important is moving away from the focus being us, and that will take time. Being a Child of the Most High, is more then the imperfect human person we are, all the while growing to who He wants us to be in Him. Which of course will not be completed until that day! Not surprisingly, others will start to see the change in you before you do!

Thanks for replying, and I'll continue to pray for His coverage over you. What change you need He knows better then I or anyone else will ever know and so I won't be giving Him any specifics to work with you on!

With the Love of Christ Jesus, who is also sending a brotherly hug.
YBIC
Nick
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The person who sent a message to this man even had a screenshot showing the nasty side of this woman. She was having a go at someone trying to trade in public, and people called her out for it. Yet he sided with her. Birds of the same feather do flock together.

 

[Christ4Ever]

The person who sent a message to this man even had a screenshot showing the nasty side of this woman. Yet he sided with her. Birds of the same feather do flock together.

Read my #126 Post sister.

 

[Godbehonored]

Why are you frustrated? Most times a person has to find themselves in the gutter, before they'll look up to our Heavenly Father to seek the help that they need! Surely you don't think that he'll listen to you or someone else, if he won't listen to God or His Word??? The flesh is weak and battles the Spirit every day. If you're not in the Word, and putting it to good use, what do you think would happen?? You've said enough on these folks in this thread to show that they aren't thinking with anything but the flesh!!! Until that changes, they won't change. They need to turn back to God!!

You can help with that, but it's not by being frustrated or taking their ignorance personally. First and foremost, it's praying for them. Not for one and not the other, because you like him, and hate her. Nope that's not how it works. You be praying for them both girl!!! You want them both to know the Lord, and to live Holy lives that they might bring honor to God!! It's not about you, and if it is, it's about your sacrifice of your desires that God might be Glorified!!! If you can do that, you'll have a joy that will have other people scratching their heads in wonderment on how that could be when they knew how you were feeling about them to begin with!!! That's when you tell them it's all about your God, Lord and Savior Jesus!!!

Hard to do Sister! And I'm sure the Adversary won't like it when you start moving in that direction of doing. Might even get worse for awhile, but then the power of God will start moving, and no one, Adversary or Man will be able to stand to the change that will happen!!! Probably won't even be as you expect it to be, but like I said you'll receive a joy that will have you laughing not with bitterness, but with true joy in how wonderful and amazing is the God that we serve!!! Alleluia!!!

Your resentment goes hand in hand with your frustration. Just another side of the same coin. Holding on to it, and thinking about what they do, or don't do isn't going to do you any good what so ever. In fact you'll probably be the one with the ulcer, and all you'll see is them laughing and having a good time. All the while you're grinding your teeth, and cursing under your breath or into the pillow how unfair life is and how you wish a rock would fall out of the sky and crush them both or maybe on you too!!!

The reason you're so put out is that instead of living for the Lord and not being concerned about the benefits you get, you're worried about how others are getting over, and getting what surely you were more deserving of! Sometimes even in the disguise of thinking it's for their own wellbeing! Been there done that. Grrrrrrrrrr Don't get me wrong, I'm not unfeeling to what you've gone through, because I've experienced those things firsthand as well. So much so that it would rear its head up now and again, and though I thought I had put it behind me, I could still feel the anger/frustration trying to rise again in me. In time I've realized that even if no one else knew, I knew that God knows, and its better that he knows then if I'm forgotten period for any good I may have done! That's why you pray for that peace that the World doesn't understand, and only comes from Christ Jesus.

"Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. John 14:27 NKJV

Sister, we have so much to look forward to, that whatever we think we have lost here on Earth, it won't hold a candle to!!! Yeah, sure I'd like to be having it/experiencing it now, but in a little while we will be rejoicing with no end!

Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later. Romans 8:18 NLT

Hearing how you talk, it almost seems like you're having a self-fulfilling prophecy in that something keeps happening, and so you expect it to keep happening! It might be happening like this for many reasons. God might feel you haven't learned what you need to learn yet, or maybe the Adversary knows it bothers you to no end so he's making sure you continue to experience it so you'll turn away from God...that you know it happens, and will probably continue to happen, just means you have to learn how to deal with those situations in a manner that instead of it being hurtful/painful that it's becomes something that glorifies God with!!! When you are able to do that, I can almost guarantee you that they will stop happening!!! Why? Because if its God causing it, when you change you will have shown Him that you have learned from it, and if it's the Adversary, you will have shown him that God is good all the time no matter what continues to happen in your life! He'll then move on to pester someone else, because you're no longer any fun to mess with!

Don't expect others to change sister, unless God works on them. So, if you are having expectations of seeing change in others, then it will take a lot of knee time, and knowing that there's a good chance you'll never see it to fruition. Meaning you might never see the results of your prayer where they change, but in your faithfulness know that God listens, and His will, will be done!

If faithful you are, and I don't mean to this man, but to God. Then whatever happens after turning it over to our Heavenly Father should be enough for you, which won't be easy but when it happens...

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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I agree with pretty much everything you said. Part of the reason I was frustrated was because I thought better of this man. The other part of the reason is what you mentioned, evil women getting the love they don’t deserve. But his reaction to the warning messages showed who he really is. If a man does not mind that a woman is nasty, it can only mean he shares this nasty trait.

I finally got to see who he truly is, and that’s a blow. Thank you bringing up the reasons why this keep happening, it can easily be both reasons that you mentioned.

 

[Godbehonored]

I am glad I’m now seeing who this man truly is. That means I will stop having any feelings for him. Then I can objectively pray without having any expectations of him changing.

 

[Godbehonored]

Read my #126 Post sister.

One last question brother, bear with me. How do I know if God has planned a godly man into my life? I keep having this desire even though I have prayed before to take it away cause I don’t think I will ever marry.

 

[Christ4Ever]

One last question brother, bear with me. How do I know if God has planned a godly man into my life? I keep having this desire even though I have prayed before to take it away cause I don’t think I will ever marry.

Dear Sister,
That is the amazing part of life, and the mystery that each day seems to bring. We do not know what each day brings, but we know our Heavenly Father does, and that for those who love Him to His good purpose He is moving in our life!

And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to [His] purpose. Romans 8:28 NKJV

The greater question you should ask yourself is are you satisfied in doing God's will/work/purpose above being married some day?

Another one just as important but similar is what is marriage to you, and what will it bring you that you don't already have in Christ Jesus?

You know how things work out for you, meaning that the moment that you are at peace with not getting married, a man will enter your life that checks all the boxes! That is why I ask you what marriage means to you, and what you will receive from it, that serving God alone won't get you. One can be married and serve God too, but it can make it more difficult. You have another person to always think of, that will take away from a totally dedicated life that is solely for the Lord. I know they can be of help too, because I really don't want to appear I'm cutting down marriage because I'm not, because I've been married 38 years myself, but I'm also a realist that in this World we live in, serving God by ourselves is hard enough, without tossing in another person in the equation as well. However, with God all things are possible, and He did create woman specifically to be a helper, and if both are dedicated to serving the Lord, we know it can work out to the Glory of God!

There are plenty of couples out there that will tell you that though it has had its ups and downs, they would not have had it any other way. That in truth is the power of Love. I also suggest reading what for most is called the Love Chapter which is 1 Corinthians 13. It might provide an eye-opening perspective of how we should view Love, and its place in our lives. Take your time if you do read it. The perspective is not how the World sees it, that's for sure!!!

You've prayed to have the thought of marriage taken from you, rather then praying that His will be made manifest on whether marriage is what His will is for you, and if its not, then that you'd have peace knowing that too. Also, that the Love (Agape) you have inside you to share with others, be provided an outlet whether in or out of marriage.

Here's another work assignment Sister... Look up the different meanings to Love in the Greek! We in English use one word for love, while in the Greek in which the New Testament was primarily written has...I'll list them, but won't break them down as to their meanings! Yeah, I can be mean that way sometimes!

Eros
Philia
Storge
Agape

Too often we say love when we might mean eros, or any of the four in Greek, but we're never quite clear on it so it kind of jumbles together sometimes. You'll find the most import of the Love mentioned above will be Agape, but not necessarily the easiest to know, have, and share. That one puts you in Heavenly Realms Dear Sister, and the one we should aspire to having and sharing.

I hope I haven't gone on too much, in not answering your question straight off, but it's rarely as clear cut as many make it out to be. We're each unique, in so many ways Sister. Enjoy that uniqueness in yourself as well, for it is God given to you!

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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[Godbehonored]

Dear Sister,
That is the amazing part of life, and the mystery that each day seems to bring. We do not know what each day brings, but we know our Heavenly Father does, and that for those who love Him to His good purpose He is moving in our life!

And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to [His] purpose. Romans 8:28 NKJV

The greater question you should ask yourself is are you satisfied in doing God's will/work/purpose above being married some day?

Another one just as important but similar is what is marriage to you, and what will it bring you that you don't already have in Christ Jesus?

You know how things work out for you, meaning that the moment that you are at peace with not getting married, a man will enter your life that checks all the boxes! That is why I ask you what marriage means to you, and what you will receive from it, that serving God alone won't get you. One can be married and serve God too, but it can make it more difficult. You have another person to always think of, that will take away from a totally dedicated life that is solely for the Lord. I know they can be of help too, because I really don't want to appear I'm cutting down marriage because I'm not, because I've been married 38 years myself, but I'm also a realist that in this World we live in, serving God by ourselves is hard enough, without tossing in another person in the equation as well. However, with God all things are possible, and He did create woman specifically to be a helper, and if both are dedicated to serving the Lord, we know it can work out to the Glory of God!

There are plenty of couples out there that will tell you that though it has had its ups and downs, they would not have had it any other way. That in truth is the power of Love. I also suggest reading what for most is called the Love Chapter which is 1 Corinthians 13. It might provide an eye-opening perspective of how we should view Love, and its place in our lives. Take your time if you do read it. The perspective is not how the World sees it, that's for sure!!!

You've prayed to have the thought of marriage taken from you, rather then praying that His will be made manifest on whether marriage is what His will is for you, and if its not, then that you'd have peace knowing that too. Also, that the Love (Agape) you have inside you to share with others, be provided an outlet whether in or out of marriage.

Here's another work assignment Sister... Look up the different meanings to Love in the Greek! We in English use one word for love, while in the Greek in which the New Testament was primarily written has...I'll list them, but won't break them down as to their meanings! Yeah, I can be mean that way sometimes!

Eros
Philia
Storge
Agape

Too often we say love when we might mean eros, or any of the four in Greek, but we're never quite clear on it so it kind of jumbles together sometimes. You'll find the most import of the Love mentioned above will be Agape, but not necessarily the easiest to know, have, and share. That one puts you in Heavenly Realms Dear Sister, and the one we should aspire to having and sharing.

I hope I haven't gone on too much, in not answering your question straight off, but it's rarely as clear cut as many make it out to be. We're each unique, in so many ways Sister. Enjoy that uniqueness in yourself as well, for it is God given to you!

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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I’ll answer the questions you posed first.

The greater question you should ask yourself is are you satisfied in doing God's will/work/purpose above being married some day?

Yes. I just don’t know what God’s will or purpose is yet for my life.

Another one just as important but similar is what is marriage to you, and what will it bring you that you don't already have in Christ Jesus?

Before I became a Christian, my heart already yearned for a loving relationship. I had the concept/mentality of being together with a man who loved only me long before I reached puberty. After I became a Christian, this desire to marry still springs up from time to time. It’s a desire to receive love more than anything. I know God loves me more than any man will, but it’s not tangible because God is not a physical being. What will marriage bring? Currently I don’t know how to become a more godly woman. A marriage will help me grow personally in this area that solitude can’t bring. Also, I still need healing in some areas of my heart that prayer alone had not yet brought about. Healthy relationships are meant to bring healing aren’t they?

I actually am at peace about not getting married. It’s not a must anymore. I am content to die a virgin for God.

It is true that one can serve God by being single. But in the Bible I have yet to see a woman called to be single. In fact most women won’t be able to survive if they remained single in old times. Am I wrong?

 

[Christ4Ever]

I’ll answer the questions you posed first.

The greater question you should ask yourself is are you satisfied in doing God's will/work/purpose above being married some day?

Yes. I just don’t know what God’s will or purpose is yet for my life.

Another one just as important but similar is what is marriage to you, and what will it bring you that you don't already have in Christ Jesus?

Before I became a Christian, my heart already yearned for a loving relationship. I had the concept/mentality of being together with a man who loved only me long before I reached puberty. After I became a Christian, this desire to marry still springs up from time to time. It’s a desire to receive love more than anything. I know God loves me more than any man will, but it’s not tangible because God is not a physical being. What will marriage bring? Currently I don’t know how to become a more godly woman. A marriage will help me grow personally in this area that solitude can’t bring. Also, I still need healing in some areas of my heart that prayer alone had not yet brought about. Healthy relationships are meant to bring healing aren’t they?

I actually am at peace about not getting married. It’s not a must anymore. I am content to die a virgin for God.

It is true that one can serve God by being single. But in the Bible I have yet to see a woman called to be single. In fact most women won’t be able to survive if they remained single in old times. Am I wrong?

Dear Sister,
You are nearer the peace then your words have before now reflected Dear Sister.

The survival in old times, of women had less to do with ability then it had to do with the way Society was. It was man driven, based upon war, physical strength, education that was only allowed to men, basically the subjugation of women, probably slavery/bondage even in marriage. The purpose was to be a child bearer, and male ones at that, though the house keep was a function they were responsible for as well. That is why Jesus was so amazing in the message He brought, and how He treated women, which was not how the Society in general did it in that day. You can see it with the Martha, Mary story told of in Luke 10:38-42. Even with the woman at the well John 4:1-27. You can see in v27 where the disciples were amazed that He was talking to a woman!

Yes, a single woman in the old times was difficult without a husband or son to care for them, but that is not the times we live in, is it? Now a days the Society allows for women to survive quite nicely without being married. Though my disagreement with it would be that its an attempt in certain ways of taking away from what makes women, women, and more of an attempt to make them more like men. Also, in some ways it is also attempting to make men more like women as well! The balance God created in unifying man & woman has become jumbled where neither is sure what is right to do or be, even in marriage!

Still, it's not just women, but men as well. Paul was talking more out of a personal belief, then it was from a God given commandment that it was better to be single then married.

(6) But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. (7) For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. (8) But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; (9) but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn [with passion]. 1 Corinthians 7:6-9 NKJV

So, whatever God has chosen for you, just do it as unto the Lord! You'll be blessed whether God brings a Godly Man into your life to marry, or you stay single.
I'll be praying for you sister.

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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[Godbehonored]

I’m sorry but I came to the conclusion that men who choose bad women don’t deserve empathy until they learn from their mistakes and repent of their own pleasure seeking mentality and other sinful behaviours that drove them to choose bad women in the first place. I don’t care if you think I am harsh, men get themselves burned because of their own wilful ignorance and sin. Their pain is DESERVED, it is a punishment for going after sinful desires by choosing bad women.

It’s the same logic with God’s people running after idols. If they get burned and hurt they DESERVED it. They ran after idols because of their own sins and then they get hurt, why do they deserve empathy? They don’t, until they accept that their pain is deserved for their bad choices and repent so they don’t make the same bad choices again and again.

It is no different with men choosing bad women. Such bad choices are the reflection of sins in men’s lives so they don’t deserve empathy. Most men don’t even learn from their mistakes and keep blaming the world and women for their own sinful choices. It’s ridiculous.

If men had self control and rejected sinful desires they would not even choose bad women in the first place. This is a no-brainer.

 

[Godbehonored]

What about wounded men who get drawn in by wicked women? The fact is, there is not a single man in history who is not wounded in some way. Is that an excuse for making a bad choice? No.

Look at Joseph, he was betrayed by his blood brothers into slavery. Did he not carry psychological wounds? He sure did, and that wound is NOT a small one. Yet when he met his master’s wife, he ran away from the evil seductress instead of letting his psychological wounds run the show. So, psychological wounds aren’t even the cause of a man choosing a bad woman, it’s always about a man giving over to sinful desires, wounds or no wounds.

So stop the lame conclusion that we need to give more empathy to men who get hurt by bad women. If men don’t accept that the pain they get from choosing bad women is JUST punishment for giving over to sinful desires, men will continue to be Ahabs tolerating Jezebels and their bad choices will not stop.

 

[Christ4Ever]

If men had self control and rejected sinful desires they would not even choose bad women in the first place. This is a no-brainer.

Dear Sister,
or good woman bad men. Is that also a no-brainer?

And such some of you were [once]. But you were washed clean (purified by a complete atonement for sin and made free from the guilt of sin), and you were consecrated (set apart, hallowed), and you were justified [pronounced righteous, by trusting] in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the [Holy] Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:11 AMPC

A Brother in Christ Jesus said the following and it has touched me deeply, because...I'll let you determine the why of it.

God is Love
Love is
For Giving

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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[Godbehonored]

Dear Sister,
or good woman bad men. Is that also a no-brainer?

And such some of you were [once]. But you were washed clean (purified by a complete atonement for sin and made free from the guilt of sin), and you were consecrated (set apart, hallowed), and you were justified [pronounced righteous, by trusting] in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the [Holy] Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:11 AMPC

A Brother in Christ Jesus said the following and it has touched me deeply, because...I'll let you determine the why of it.

God is Love
Love is
For Giving

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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<><

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Of course, the same goes for women choosing bad men, sinful desires. I am as wounded as any woman can be but I never choose bad men. They get kicked to the curb before they even knew what was going on. How else do you suppose I kept myself a virgin for 30+ years? I even had married men wanting to sleep with me, attractive and charming married men whom other women are pining for. I have a keen eye for seeing who the bad men are.

I learned quickly that psychological wounds only make one more easily give in to sinful desires, but they don’t force someone to give in to sinful desires. It’s always a matter of personal choice.

 

[Godbehonored]

Dear Sister,
or good woman bad men. Is that also a no-brainer?

And such some of you were [once]. But you were washed clean (purified by a complete atonement for sin and made free from the guilt of sin), and you were consecrated (set apart, hallowed), and you were justified [pronounced righteous, by trusting] in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the [Holy] Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:11 AMPC

A Brother in Christ Jesus said the following and it has touched me deeply, because...I'll let you determine the why of it.

God is Love
Love is
For Giving

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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<><

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And I don’t say the above to boast off. I say that if a wounded person like me can make the right choices despite what I’ve been through, ANYBODY can. Joseph can, and he lived in a period before the Spirit of God was even poured out. Those who can’t, can’t because of their own irresponsibility and laziness, so their pain is deserved.

 

[Godbehonored]

Dear Sister,
or good woman bad men. Is that also a no-brainer?

And such some of you were [once]. But you were washed clean (purified by a complete atonement for sin and made free from the guilt of sin), and you were consecrated (set apart, hallowed), and you were justified [pronounced righteous, by trusting] in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the [Holy] Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:11 AMPC

A Brother in Christ Jesus said the following and it has touched me deeply, because...I'll let you determine the why of it.

God is Love
Love is
For Giving

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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<><

​

Let me just give you an idea of what kind of psychological wounds I carried just for relationships alone. These wounds are on top of the wounds I faced in my family from domestic violence and having an abusive parent.

In elementary school I was rejected and humiliated in public by the boy I liked. In secondary school, I was mocked and rejected by my peers who saw me as wierd, but that was because I was dealing with an abusive family environment. This was before I came to Christ.

After I came to Christ, and going into high school, I met a really evil dude who idolised Adolf Hitler. He tried to lure me into a sexual relationship. I didn’t give in because he disgusted me when he revealed his true colours.

In university, I liked a guy who admired me for my talents, but he chose another girl and broke my trust in the way he handled things. After him I met a guy online who did like me, but it was because I was a virgin and his current girl was not. I rejected him and he immediately got into a relationship.

Then I met a really abusive female boss at work who basically denied all the contributions I made and slandered me for things I never did. I lost a job and became depressed.

After going through another horrendous year of emotional turmoil, I finally landed another job. This time it was a married man who started having feelings for me. He found me physically attractive, smart and capable and even lamented why he couldn’t marry two wives. I rejected him because he was married and guess what? He went around the office gossiping about me negatively because his ego was hurt. In that same work environment, a Jezebel spirit woman was jealous of how this married man treated me and was hell bent on tearing down my reputation. I was dealing with two troubles all at once and I sunk into another depression and left.

During this second depression I met another online guy whom I thought checked the boxes but again he was drawn to a more energetic but moral-less woman. He chose her over me and I sunk into yet a third depression.

Now again, after taking a break I am yet faced with the same kind of man choosing a woman with no morals over me.

I am consistently in a pattern of being rejected by men, being bullied and slandered by Jezebels who want to ruin my relationships with men, while I did nothing wrong. Men don’t see the qualities in me that would make me marriage material, they like me cause I am giving and they can use me. But they give their love to those Jezebels who are only good at satisfying men’s sinful desires. Those who hurt and use me are from both genders.

Do you not see how easily I could have let all those 30 years of wounds carry me away into choosing sinful desires? I could easily choose a wicked man who would satisfy the sexual desires I never attended to and used them to get some of my unmet emotional needs met. It doesn’t even take effort because I am attractive to many men. But I didn’t. Instead now I pray to God to just make my miserable life end quicker either through natural death, end of the world or martyrdom. Truly, and I say truly, no man on this earth deserve my love except God.

For once if those idiots chose a better woman than I am, a more godly woman than me, I would accept it and shut my mouth. If I’m a worse woman than the women they choose, I accept defeat with joy. But it’s not the case. So don’t come to me with lame excuses that those idiots deserve empathy. They don’t.